I think Lemmy is better than Reddit in a sense that you can see both up- and downvotes. If my message gets +7 / -30 points, at least I can still see that not literally everyone is opposed to what I'm saying. On Reddit, it would just say -23 points, and it can feel like the entire world is against you.

If I say something I believe to be true, then it doesn't matter if I get a ton of hate for it, especially when no one even makes a serious attempt to argue to the contrary. I have something to say, so I put it out there and move on. For instance, if I say something like "I can't help but feel bad for this Russian dude in the drone video whose face just got blown off," and I get downvoted to oblivion for it, my first thought is not "maybe I'm wrong," but rather "damn, these people are cold and cynical." I might be losing my hope for humanity, but at least I'm staying true to my beliefs.

I try to be respectful, even towards people who act in a manner that I don't appreciate, including you. I could've made a much different reply to you acting a bit shitty here and further provoke you to come back at me with a nasty reply, but I didn't. No matter how crappy social media can be nowadays, I try not to be one of those people making it worse.

I still use Reddit, but I unsubbed from the world news, politics, etc. subreddits years ago for this reason. There has been a clear decline over the years, but I think a lot of this is artificial, especially anywhere focusing on political discussion. Anyone who can't tolerate talking like a propaganda bot shuts up or leaves or gets some kind of stockholm syndrome, because there are groups of activists who think they can achieve their goals by enforcing that. And to be clear I'm not saying this is just left wing activists, you could see the same sort of decay happening on 4chan for instance with right wing activists who have that same mindset.

But because it is artificial, so is the impression that everyone really thinks like a propaganda bot. Maybe some of them do, but I think for the most part they have just been conditioned to feel uncomfortable speaking in public spaces online without a lot of anxiety and attention on speaking the way the bots and activists have narrowly defined as acceptable. Any time you go to a private space, or a smaller, less popular space, there is a noticeable difference. So personally I think there is cause for hope.

Lemmy hasn't been around for a long time but I feel like this doesn't happen here. Maybe it's time to give lemmy a chance?

~~That story doesn't make sense though, seems like some idiot banned you if this is how it really went. Did you appeal it? I mean... I would appeal it before totally giving up hope.~~

Sorry I thought you meant the world news community, not the subreddit. Sorry you got banned on Reddit, it is super dumb. I got banned from r/feminism and then shadow banned from a few more feminist communities many many years ago for talking about my own experinece as a girl who put on Hijab at age 11/12 and took it off at age 17. They told me I was "promoting a symbol of oppression" and told me to fuck myself when I appealed it. Good job feminist mod for kicking the brown girl down!