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It sounds like you want planning to be fun or enjoyable. Do you think you might be better at it if you accept : this is going to suck, I'm not going to like it, but it has to get done.
If I wait to feel motivated or to think I'll enjoy something it'll just never get done.
Planning with a partner under these conditions isn't great. I end up pretty agitated and just want to get it over with. Maybe try to divide and conquer rather than plan together?
Maybe you take the less fun parts so planning doesn't ruin any of the trip for you. She can plan the fun activities, and food/reservations and you can plan the actual travel and maybe accommodations?
Another thing that helps me with this kind of thing is I'll set up my laptop and notebook right next to my relax spot on the couch. I don't have to do the work right now, I just have to get everything set up. Then, later when I'm on the couch, I'm more likely to actually do the research because I don't burn out getting everything I need / all set up.
This is how I look at things. Most of my life is not fun. It has its moments but I'm not enjoying every second. Work, responsibility, being an adult. These things happen so you can have periods of enjoyment.