I mean, their current actions are tbh pretty justified.

Terrorising the civilian population makes them no better than Hamas, and that you seek to justify their brutality is quite telling.

They have 200 innocent kidnapped civilians. And I have yet to see the Israeli government officially target Palestinian people in their attacks, physical or verbal. All of their aggression is focused on Hamas.

Very few brutal oppressors officially target civilians. The notion that it's not official policy is the excuse of apologists for brutally oppressive regimes everywhere.

I legit don’t hear of any attacks Israel does without there being a Hamas HQ/Storehouse (and even when they’re a legit target, they alert people to evacuate beforehand…

Of course. Nobody is going to carry out an attack and go "of course we intended to murder innocent people, and knowingly committed war crimes", so that will always be the story. And given that Gaza is one of the most densely populated places on the planet, you can randomly and indiscriminately attack and then retroactively find some excuse. That they keep ending up with dead civilians shows

Context. I agree about the Apartheid in some some parts (West Bank) but there’s so much nuance there that’s it’s hard to actually define as Apartheid - they’re not actual citizens and they have their own government (PA). Their government doesn’t do much, and they’re under Israeli power -

This is only hard to people who haven't bothered looking, and who are wildly unaware of the characteristics of apartheid.

This was exactly the point of the use of Bantustans in South Africa too: To try to write off responsibility by pretending that they had "independence", even though South African controlled essential aspects such as borders.

Ever heard of the "states" Transkei? KwaZulu? Ciskei? There were many more. They were "states" created in a way that allowed the South African regime to try to pretend that the suffering and oppression they forced on the population was not their fault, because they were nominally "independent". Many of the leaderships of these bantustans took on the role willingly - a means for personal power - some took up with some level of protest. E.g. Buthelezi, who led Inkatha and "ruled" KwaZulu refused to accept the pretend independence offered in part because the territory was inherently unviable.

What all of these "countries" had in common was that their bordered were unilaterally dictated by South Africa, and their level of territorial control was unilaterally dictated by South Africa, and so on, just like Israel has dictated the level of territorial control of the West Bank and Gaza and hollowed out whichever pieces they wanted. Many of the bantustans were used as excuses for "resettling" populations in supposed "homelands" and denying claims to other land the same way Palestinians have been systematically pushed into smaller and smaller areas and given some notional control over what is left.

but neither Israelis nor Palestinians consider Palestinians as Israelis - so naming it Apartheid is just not accurate. They’re just a different people.

KwaZulu was a "homeland" for the Zulu people. Ciskei and Transkei were "homelands" for the Xhosa people.

Ovamboland was a "homeland" for the Ovambo people in Namibia, so not even part of South Africa. Damaraland for the Damara people, also in Namibia. Hereroland for the Hereros, also in Namibia.

Like Israel, South Africa also occupied and controlled territories outside their own national boundaries where they, like Israel, unilaterally decided on borders for territories allowed to self govern.

So even if on were to accept your notion that the fact Palestinians and Israelis agree that they are not Israeli, there were still numerous Bantustans in the same situation: Populations that did not consider themselves part of either the same people or the same nation as South Africa, and which were still a core part of the bantustan system.

That you use this as an excuse for dismissing the accusation of Apartheid makes it clear you don't understand what Apartheid was. Because Apartheid was far more varied than "just" the headline racism and the most in-your-face segregation.

I suggest this article. It's old, but it's good particularly because one of the main people mentioned in the article, Arthur Goldreich, was a hero of the Apartheid struggle, a Jewish South African who helped hide Mandela. He was also a fighter in Palmach in the 1940's, fighting to make Israel a reality. After fleeing South African prison, he settled in Israel again in the 1960's. I'll quote a few paragraphs:

As it is, Goldreich sees Israel as closer to the white regime he fought against and modern South Africa as providing the model. Israeli governments, he says, ultimately proved more interested in territory than peace, and along the way Zionism mutated.

Goldreich speaks of the "bantustanism we see through a policy of occupation and separation", the "abhorrent" racism in Israeli society all the way up to cabinet ministers who advocate the forced removal of Arabs, and "the brutality and inhumanity of what is imposed on the people of the occupied territories of Palestine".

"Don't you find it horrendous that this people and this state, which only came into existence because of the defeat of fascism and nazism in Europe, and in the conflict six million Jews paid with their lives for no other reason than that they were Jews, is it not abhorrent that in this place there are people who can say these things and do these things?" he asks.

These are the words of someone who lived decades in South Africa under Apartheid, and then decades in Israel under Apartheid, and who fought against South Africa, and who fought for Israel. This was 2006. Things have gotten far worse since then.

Nobody denies what they’re doing - I just give them a break considering they’re fighting a war against an organization who benefits from civilian casualties (on both sides…).

This is actually worse. If you acknowledge what they're doing (despite your attempts to whitewash it above), then you're giving oppressors engaged in gross human rights abuses a break while not giving the oppressed civilian population who are also opposed to Hamas and of whom the vast majority are innocent a break.

They’re also not helped by “woke” distortion of reality which makes the Israeli people only support their right wing government more against the world who very verbosely stick their nose in a conflict thousands of kms away, taking the easy way out of supporting the underdog, no matter what that underdog is actually like.

"Your criticism forced us to align with far-right extremist mass murderers" is never a valid argument. Everyone should stick their noses in when a country keeps electing governments that commits crimes against humanity on a regular basis, just like people eventually did against South African apartheid. If "woke" now means "has basic human decency", then anyone who isn't woke is scum.

People used your argument to try to shield the South African apartheid regime against criticism too, and it was just as nasty apologism then as it is now.

taking the easy way out of supporting the underdog, no matter what that underdog is actually like.

Anyone who believes supporting Palestinians has been "the easy way" is either a child or have not paid attention to the political climate for support for Palestinians over a period of many decades. It's ahistorical and a nasty distortion.