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all of these cliché relationships where people don't seem to understand basic forms of communication just confuse me. if you feel this way, tell them! If you don't like something their doing, say something! this isnt highschool; it's not a guessing game anymore, it's people.
It's always high school. Always has been, always will be. After generations of learning how to interact with each other in romantic contexts from media, what do you expect? Especially when we spend our formative years watching media that's written to appeal to people in their formative years, you end up with a lot of people acting like poorly written characters because that's how they learned to interact with each other.
Not to say that our generation is worse than previous generations, of course. Back then dudes didn't know how to not hit their wives. Now we just don't know how to talk. A marked improvement, I'd say
Back then dudes didn’t know how to not hit their wives.
A good manny still don’t know, until the wife/gf teach them, usually via reciprocal means. :-/
So many people going "opposite sex does X in relationships" and me just being like "you could stop dating people who do X" and they always look at me like I've sprouted horns. Like seriously, people who do X in relationships don't need to be enabled to continue uncriticized
I'm really glad I was able to develop good communication skills in my life of work. When I just started out I made some pretty bad communication errors and I got to see the effects of the errors and learn from my mistakes.
Pretty much learned from the start to just never assume anything. If it's important, say it even if you think the other party knows it already. Because at "worst" you just said something obvious but at best you realize there is a communication gap ASAP.