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While what you said is technically true, it's not good advice. The standard advice of 'eat less, exercise more, and it's your own fault if you don't get results" sets up most people for failure. In fact, that's exactly why it's bad advice - OP has most certainly seen it and attempted it, and it's not working for them.
Everyone is different, and responds differently. OP needs to examine what they've tried and why it's not working for them. For many people, myself included, sugar acts as a drug. The only answer is to eliminate it from your diet, AKA low-carb (keto, Atkins) diets. Other people are stress eaters who need to develop coping mechanisms. Still others are bored eaters, or people who succumb easily to temptation.
Telling any of these people to just eat less is the one thing guaranteed to fail.
I disagree. More people need the education around weight loss. Too many people think you can outwork a bad diet in the gym and it is simply and entirely untrue.
You lose weight in the kitchen and you tone your body/build muscle in the gym.
It is worth repeating because many people honestly do not understand it.
Eat less food to lose weight. Go to the gym to get stronger.
I agree with that statement, I've been going to my family's place every weekend just for that to learn to cook with my mom lol at this age
Or just eat more good healthy food. I know UPS drivers that eat a bit of breakfast, don’t eat lunch, and then do a decent dinner. And of course they get a good workout every day. But they’re still overweight because a lot of the food they do eat is, well, fast food and junk food.
Occam's razor.
You can complicate the concepts of weight gain and loss all you like, it always boils down to calories in Vs calories out.
You'll show me 99 people that have several excuses about why they in particular can't lose weight and I'll only be able to show you one that holds their hands up and says "I admit it, I'm weak and I'd rather have cake now than a nice body a few months later".
Losing weight is like stopping smoking, it's all conjecture and day dreams until one day you say "fuck this, I'm changing and sticking with it STARTING NOW".
Some people need tough love, not more readymade excuses.
It sounds like you've never struggled with weight loss, and for that I congratulate you. I couldn't manage until I learned to avoid carbs.
Yes, the end result is still fewer calories. But this approach made it a whole lot easier for me, since it reduced my hunger.