thank you for the information!

i've never thought about posing doctors the question. I've never seen a proper psychiatrist, only shrinks and GP perhaps that's why my experiences were less than ideal and marred.

I can also see how it's super delicate, usually the first question they ask is how I function on a day-to-day basis, ie. my grades at uni, my career, my childhood grades etc. usually that's where they brush it off, because when discovered i've been getting straight As and pretty good grades when i was younger they said no way i would have ADHD. But issue is I have never, ever, ever concentrated a single second in my life, unless i try. Concentrating does not come as second nature to me and i have to rely on fear (of disappointing, negative consequences of not meeting job quotas etc) to motivate me. And i do not blame them at all, it could very well just be general depression/anxiety... but it's been there for more than 2 dozen years but oh well, i don't want to self-diagnose as you've said.

will have to come around to seeing a psychiatrist in the future so will definitely keep your advice in mind.