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What is the most unhelpful advice you have received?
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Get an advanced education, work harder, never be the one to say, "That is not my job" was the worst advice I could ever receive. I got into debt and was abused and exploited by my employers.
Some of that advice is true ... work hard, work at something all the time and do your best ... but always for yourself and your well being and for your own self and your family.
I'm Indigenous Canadian and this is what all my family did including me. I worked for myself all my life ... building, construction, renos, fixing stuff, building stuff all the time ... I did some work for companies and businesses but always with the idea that I wouldn't work more than I had to and only to gain a bit more money to move on as soon as possible.
Twenty five years later ... I own three properties, multiple old vehicles that I maintain myself and I own everything I have without debt ... I'm not the wealthiest but I am debt free and have a healthy savings and I still work for myself gaining a bit more every time .
Your experience is the exception rather than the rule. It's been shown that rags to riches is a myth perpetrated by capitalism. At one time I had your level of success. It was all taken from me when I became disabled. As a Canadian, you have the distinct advantage of at least some social welfare assistance whereas your neighbor to the south has virtually none.
I agree that the whole rags to riches idea is a complete sham that doesn't exist ... unless you are already born wealthy ... and then that doesn't make any sense because you never had rags to begin with.
My story is more rags or bare clothing ... I'm not wealthy ... I just have enough to be comfortable ... I'm not in debt and I drive old beater cars and trucks and never owned a new vehicle in my life ... I bought small properties away from big city centers where land is cheap but living is hard
And yes ... I know most people are probably not capable of doing what I did ... I grew up with lots of people in my situation and I was fortunate enough to figure a way out, mostly through the luck of finding the right partner who worked just as hard as me, parents who were great guides and teachers and a small network of family and friends I could count on.