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this post was submitted on 29 Nov 2023
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As someone who grew up with divorced parents my biggest concern was having to deal with twice as many holiday parties. Do not stay together because of kids. If you actually care about your kids then split up and don't try to use the kids as a barganing chip in the divorce. Be willing to work with the other parent on custody. Accept that you both need to spend time with your children (assuming there is no abuse going on). But growing up in a house with parents that hate each other is a good way to fuck up your kids for life.
yup. lived through two divorces; it's not doing anyone any favors.
one, the kids can see it coming, unless they're infants they know something is hinky and lying to them rarely works.
two, each individual now feels repeatedly obligated to try to make it work, to stifle the feelings they may have elsewhere or skip out on social events etc.,
I've never seen it work well, but boy howdy have I seen it work exceptionally poorly.