It doesn’t matter that much to me, I won’t go out of my way to shut down a vegan extremist, I don’t care enough.

I've got a few close to me, and they go out of their way to shut down other people close to me. I've lived around and been involved in various ways with people in the various meat-related industries. It hurts them, and I care about them, so I care about the issue.

I don't expect everyone to feel that way. But it's like the difference between "internet atheists" who are a dime a dozen, and "that guy you actually know that thinks it's appropriate to treat non-atheists as absolute morons".

cutting animal product is easier than picking the local farm meat so it’s what I choose

I can respect that. It's a band-aid solution in my opinion, but if I look at how I tolerate half-ass government actions, I have to honestly accept that a band-aid solution should not be faulted too much.

the most important part is stopping the torture on animals

I think we'd diverge here, but that's ok. To me, sustainability is more important than animal comfort any time we can't feasibly have both, so long as a farmed animal is generally better off than the same species in the wild by some agreeable metric - which both cows and chickens generally are (except liberty, but few non-human species put any QoL value on "freedom").

I hate the mentality that if it’s not perfect we don’t do it, it’s the same for vegans hating on vegetarian.

1000% percent. Vegans are not "going to win" and have a kumbaya utopia (dystopia) where people across the world are forbidden to eat animals and harshly punished when they try. And they're sure not going to get a world where the masses choose veganism. But there's a LOT of even ranchers and hunters of all people who would stand at their side for better regulations on humane treatment.