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submitted 11 months ago by Cap@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

My father, who convinced me (16 m) at the time to move in with him instead of my mother when they moved. All 3 of the other siblings stayed with my mother. He then kicked me out the week I turned 18, a week into my senior year. Since then he stays in touch only to speak with his grandchildren (now going on 4 kids). I have never been anything but opportunistic and positive in our interactions. Regardless he still acts like I am a burden to talk too. Am now 37, and finally getting to the point I should accept it. I'm the complete opposite with my own children and can't comprehend how someone could treat their child like this. How do I cope? It eats at me. I will answer any questions in depth if it will help in understanding the situation.

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[-] Cap@lemm.ee 60 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

After reflecting from the comments, you are right. I need therapy, Thank you. I know that is easier said then done. As I work full time with kids. The comments help, so thank you to all giving me advice as I take it to heart.

[-] bobs_monkey@lemm.ee 24 points 11 months ago

Virtual therapy sessions are a big thing now. I'm sure there's added benefit to in-person sessions, but if time and life are constraints, the option is there.

[-] andrew@lemmy.stuart.fun 8 points 11 months ago

I've done both and it's possible my virtual therapy sessions were an outlier but I'd strongly recommend at least starting with in-person. I just didn't find virtual anywhere near as effective as face to face with another person.

[-] dingus@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

Why do you think that is? What do you feel that younger out of in-person visits that you don't get virtually?

I'm an anxious person and the thought of seeing someone like that in person stresses me the fuck out tbh

[-] xkforce@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago
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