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submitted 1 year ago by aloeha@lemmy.world to c/adhd@lemmy.world

We are normally good at masking bc its expected of us but I am so tired of it. I'm so tired of having to pretend like I'm someone I'm not.

Then when we mess up and let our guard down or make a mistake and accidentally show people we are ND, we get dogpiled or yelled at. It sucks especially bc we sometimes don't understand social mores, so even when we are confident that we are acting the way NTs expect us to, we can end up wrong and still get yelled at.

It's awful bc we are never gonna create a more equitable society if we can't have these types of conversations with NTs. We have to show them that bring ND isn't an insult, but that's when we get yelled at or made fun of.

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[-] Decide@programming.dev 9 points 1 year ago

Similar, but in a past job, I didn't pick up on some cues, treated a coworker like how I treat everyone, and I got yelled at by them. They told me to respect the hierarchy and that I'm not his equal - I was training for a higher position at the time. I was later let go for other reasons they wouldn't mention.

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