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Self-hosted or personal email solutions?
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I tried both hosting my own mail server and using a paid mail hosting with my own domain and I advise against the former.
The reason not to roll out your own mail server is that your email might go to spam at many many common mail services. Servers and domains that don't usually send out big amount of email are considered suspicious by spam filters and the process of letting other mail servers know that they are there by sending out emails is called warming them up. It's hard and it takes time... Also, why would you think you can do hosting better than a professional that is paid for that? Let someone else handle that.
With your own domain you are also not bound to one provider - you can change both domain registrar and your email hosting later without changing your email address.
Also, avoid using something too unusual. I went with firstname@lastname.email cause I thought it couldn't be simpler than that. Bad idea... and I can't count how many times people send mail to a wrong address because such tld is unfamiliar. I get told by web forms regularly that my email is not a valid address and even people that got my email written on a piece of paper have replaced the .email with .gmail.com cause "that couldn't be right"...
That's the thing that holds me back from a non-standard TLD, as much as I'd love to get a vanity domain.
I've got a .org I've had for over 20 years now. My primary email address has been on that domain for almost as long. While I don't have problems with web-based forms, telling people my email address is a chore at best since it's not gmail, outlook, yahoo, etc...
More and more services are REQUIRING a gmail/outlook/etc. account simply because bots/scammers bombard their services. It's their cheap captcha.
I'm seeing it more and more and it infuriates me to no end.
As if a scammer can't get a Gmail address. 😄 What does that even prove?
I think the point is that a scammer may have one or two. But not millions of Gmail addresses.
I keep seeing people say this but I've yet to encounter it even once. I fully believe it happens with non-com/net/org TLDs but I've been using my .org as my daily driver for 2 decades and have never had it rejected or denied.
The last one I encountered was one of the AI tools. I can't remember which one. They are popping up like fucking Starbucks now.
They required using your Gmail, Outlook, or Discord credentials.
You mean those websites that instead of email input fields there are multiple horizontal stripes saying "Login with Google" and such?
I hate them, too... but I suppose it's for the mobile crowd that don't make distinctions between sms, fb/whatsapp messages, and email altogether.
I wonder if all those gmail accounts will be seen like yahoo addresses one day.
Yeah, I use firstname@thelastnames.co
And EVERY DAMN PERSON corrects .co to .com
Unfortunately the .com.and .net are both used.
You can avoid the warmup by using an SMTP relay, and you can just use the one from your DNS provider if you're not planning to send hundreds of mails per day.