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how can I develop a thick skin? (feddit.de)

submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by lompedtfre@feddit.de to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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today was supposed to be my first day of therapy and the therapist didn't show up. I'm pissed off. I wasted 2 hours for nothing.

I've sent her a polite message, asking if she's sick and hoping she is well, but in reality I wanted to yell at her. However, if I yell at her, chances are she won't treat me.

Before you suggest to find another therapist, finding a shrink where I live is very difficult and the other ones I contacted have either ignored me or are overbooked. I need therapy and it bothers me to be so dependent on one person.

For those of you who have experienced something similar, how doesn't it bother you?

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[-] Lemmy_2019@lemmy.one 8 points 2 years ago

Emotionally mature adults shouldn't have to shout at anyone in daily life. It's not repressed rage if you have an even temperament.

I do know several volatile people who consider it normal to 'blow off steam' by having a raging argument every now and then. It may be helpful to them but it's childish and unfair to those around them.

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee -1 points 2 years ago

I didn’t say “shout”. I said “raised their voice”.

Raising one’s voice means speaking with more force than casual.

[-] Lemmy_2019@lemmy.one 7 points 2 years ago

You can split hairs, but I certainly don't 'feel safer' around people who raise their voice to me. It's intemperate, threatening and often bullying. But I can see we won't agree.

[-] Scary_le_Poo@beehaw.org -1 points 2 years ago

This is therapy. Ffs read the context.

Talk about being completely unaware...

[-] GammaGames@beehaw.org 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

The context of the comment I asked the question to was a situation flip where they stated they’d be more comfortable if the therapist raised their voice in response to them being late…

So, yes. I wouldn’t expect a therapist to have anger issues like that.

[-] belated_frog_pants@beehaw.org 3 points 2 years ago

You dont yell at your therapist either. Anger management seems like a good first target if you cant stop yourself from yelling at people.

No therapist should put up with being yelled at.

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