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should I break up with my girlfriend? (hexbear.net)

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[-] WithoutFurtherBelay@hexbear.net 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Im not saying you’re wrong, I’m saying that a lot of (other to be honest because it’s not really present here) times I’ve seen people then take that opinion and then start attacking or demeaning for instance, people who like what they said they dislike. I’m talking about music here specifically, not Treat Discourse.

I am somewhat disconnected from the whole thing because I have a hard time really, like, genuinely finding genres bad. There’s probably something out there I dislike but calling it “bad” gives me bad feelings, because I’m constantly aware of the fact that other people can have different tastes, and have had my tastes change dramatically, so I could just end up accidentally implying I have bad taste later in life or something.

[-] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 5 points 10 months ago

I think I can enlighten a bit. Music dorks who are REALLY into stuff and especially similar genres where you can split hairs and be nervy have a tradition of being harsher than they really mean or making disagreements seem bigger than they are. I used to argue passionately and loudly about music with this older dude who ran a record store and midway he stopped as any 35 year old arguing with a 15 year old did and asked "just to be sure, you're having fun right now right?" And I totally was cause arguing passionate with people over which album by The Cure and going full debate lord about it (it's Seventeen Seconds btw) is fun as hell for many people that are just that into music. There's a general understanding that it's dumb as hell at the end of the day. This especially applies to more underground stuff where if you're involved you probably know half of the people you're talking about.

And I will reiterate if you call.something bad it's the same as saying you don't think it's good because you're speaking about a subjective thing. I guess it's more assertive but that's it.

[-] WithoutFurtherBelay@hexbear.net 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

That’s actually really helpful, sorry about being a dick. I don’t have the important context of like, actual music scenes (I’m just some nerd), and it makes sense that people would sort of get more “serious” about it then they are… Like powerscaling but for music.

[-] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 5 points 10 months ago

Also personally, when I talk music, I know what I like and am passionate about by the general measure of what people enjoy in music is so far removed from my tastes that the diy punk music scene that has been a huge part of my life that it is considered by most to be objectively bad music and by any metric that music is measured, it totally is. So there's both a scrappy underdog thing and a massive sense of irony going on.

Like, not only is this what I listen to but know encyclopedically, participate in, and has influenced who my friends are, how I dress, act and talk since I was 13. Some music has subcultures as well, and punk is mine to the core, even though I'm less precious about it as I grow older, it's the biggest part of who I am. And the music sounds like...this

So when it comes to punk, it's less a musical thing and more of a subculture war thing. I've got beef with folk punk kids.

[-] WithoutFurtherBelay@hexbear.net 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Ah, I’m misreading intonation, it’s not “folk punk is bad”, it’s “folk punk is bad”. I’ve seen people be very weird about punk before so my response might make more sense with that context. It makes perfect sense to have beef with something that is pretty much entreating on your subculture or feels like it’s co-opting it somewhat.

Also I apologize for comparing to powerscaling, that was a grievous and horrific insult and I do not think it is possible for me to make up for that

[-] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 1 points 10 months ago

I don't know what powerscaling even is tbh. It's also petty sectarianism that isn't really taken seriously person to person toooooooo much. At the end of the day we're all allies in what matters and are more silar to each other than the rest of the world. And folk punk isn't completely an incursion, the roots are there from the start with the pogues and the pub rock roots of early British punk, and if anyone even tries to deny that Mischief Brew or Against Me (up to and including As the Eternal Cowboy, I'm iffy after) isn't just really good tunes I'd have a hard time believing them, I also really like This Bike is a Pipe Bomb. It started as dirty punks writing acoustic songs to busk with and make cash and became the new Ska, a refuge for privileged band geeks but this one combined 1930s train hoppers with modern crusty squatters in a way that was cool until.tom waits fans got involved (no shade to.tom waits himself there)