@TheVillageGuy take a look at this post that showed up on my feed along with the present one: Why I started Sublinks: A timeline of events.

It seems like this person had a somewhat similar experience to yourselves in that they were frustrated with the development of lemmy. Some effort was made to contribute but it didn't work out. The frustrations mounted and eventually a new project was the only way forward.

Same the mbin folks, a chat server was a useful off-threadiverse venue where ideas coalesced and relationships were built. As a participant in mbin do you catch my drift that they are roughly parallel trajectories? I'm not in either community don't know the details.

But notice how the problems with other people or orgs is only mentioned in that they are relevant to this story. And while it does allude to some problems which were emotionally taxing, the focus on what was done to fix it and the outcomes.

So far the mbin project still exists and I do see people using it. If it's going to be a long term thing youse should consider how you are representing yourselves. Being a weird Earnest accountability stalker is off putting. If you were doing it on your own behalf it would be a little disturbing. But you so clearly are doing it as some sort of ambassador in order to suggest people use mbin; and other mbin people have said similar things so I am not intending to single you out. This behaviour makes you and by extension mbin seem like a bunch of unhinged petty drama queens. It give a shine to the project as a whole. It is unnecessary. It will continue to have no helpful impact on the outcomes of kbin.

I think it is possible at this point to set a new tone if you want. Try the link, maybe even get to know these folks if you don't already because I bet it would be productive. Youse are probably facing similar issues with federation. Just need to decide what chat software to use.