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Okay, so with hobbies, stuff you're already interested in is a good start, but it might be helpful to explore some "guy hobbies" in the sense of like, find some hobbies that are more popular with men, and then find one that sounds like it could be interesting to you, and try to find a local group based on that. If you pursue groups with larger percentage of men, it's easier to find someone you're potentially interested in and vice-versa.
Just make sure you're pursuing a hobby you'll actually end up liking. Don't be afraid to be like "Yeah, this actually isn't for me." That's up to and including "These men are just not receptive to a woman in this space." (You don't want to waste your time with gatekeeping men)
Like, you'd be hard pressed in tech groups, which kind of have a history of being stuck up when it comes to women in "their" spaces (nevermind that women programmed the computers on the moon missions back in the day because typing was "women's work" *rolls eyes).
Football or soccer might be a little easier, there's still a lot of women in those circles, and less dopey men gatekeeping, at least in my experience . There's still some of that, but I think women being into sports is more accepted than it used to be, compared to tech spaces.
A lot of guys are into role-playing tabletop games like Dungeons & Dragons, and while you can run into a lot of way too sheltered men in those groups, you can also run into really talented men who are good at math, acting, and strategy who are relatively well-adjusted. Stephen Colbert famously played a lot while he was growing up, and he attributes it to at least some of his acting and comedy skills.