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Making friends as an adult
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this post was submitted on 21 Jul 2023
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Sadly, the older I get the more I see just how badly people suck...including me. I really need to lower my standards.
At this point I'm not sure if it's undiagnosed adhd that makes me socially isolate, or if it's genuinely better just chilling with my wife and her family who are pretty rad compared to everyone else I meet.
at least you have someone cool and close to you in your life
You can be cool by yourself!
There's a tendency to think social isolation is bad or think something is wrong with us for doing it. IMO most people who go out and party all the time are also just "socially isolating", by putting up a front, drinking etc, with no real deep connection. No vulnerability and openness. If you have deep relationship with family you are probably better off.
Your wisdom could be telling you not to waste your time going out with shallow folks. Having 1 or 2 deep friends is nice.
Obviously, I know absolutely nothing about you, and if your standards are some over the top expectations or demands then you should stop calling them standards.. BUT if your standards are healthy boundaries and some basic safety precautions then by any means try not to mess with them even when the situation is rough — this can burn for a looong time..