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this post was submitted on 11 Feb 2024
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The replies about the stats goes so well with my thought on this.
If I was to talk about some other topic as much as people talk about sports ball stuff, I'd get crap for it.
If I don't want to talk about sports ball crap, I get crap for it.
It's a weird double standard sometimes. Maybe because sports are so prevalent and common?
It's because in this country, toxic masculinity dictates that the only acceptable way to relate to another guy is by talking about sports. Imagine having such a fragile ego that the only way you know how to talk to another man is to take turns reciting what you heard on ESPN. Otherwise you might get called gay, which to them is some kind of insult to their masculinity.
Meanwhile, they're getting an attitude with each other about a game where the guys pat each other on the ass after a good play.
But it's such a masculine pat, not even a pat, a hit, a slap! A hard, masculine manly slap.
There's a Key and Peele skip coming to mind...
Found it. Slap-Ass](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5-uIwpo0dCU)
Edit, and yes, I agree to an extent. I don't think previous generations of men were taught healthy ideas about emotions, feeling, etc. Anger is generally accepted, sadness, hurt, etc are not. They are just translated to anger to be accepted. I think the general problem is starting to be acknowledged. Maybe not fixed, but there's a start maybe.
How would you constructively mentor someone who you think was rased that way? Assuming you had the kind of relationship that allowed it?
I've had these kind of talks with people before. You ever made progress with giving someone more options?