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femboys and egg culture rule
(lemmy.blahaj.zone)
How to get out of an uncomfortable egg culture situation with this one simple trick.
Real talk: Calling people eggs is a violation of the egg prime directive, and is considered invalidating as you are trying to say that a person is not the gender they identify as, that their identity is invalid. Don't call people eggs, like ever, it's extremely uncool.
Is this really real? Egg seems like such a fun and friendly thing to call someone, like saying they have a lot of potential! I don't want look it up now cuz I'm gonna get my heart broken. Thank you at least for the warning, assuming you are being genuine.
It's ok to call yourself an egg, but calling other people eggs is like saying "I know your gender identity better than you do".
I'd say the only time it's ok to call someone else an egg is if it's past tense, if the person has transitioned, and if their transition is public knowledge.
I've always thought of it like the prime directive: you shouldn't interfere, you should only be there in a supportive fashion when it happens.
Oof, that sounds so horrible! I'm not even sure that using egg in past-tense seems right. That feels like drinking with buddies when someone who's known you your whole life starts regaling the group with the last time you peed the bed. Sure, it's out of your control and there's nothing to be particularly ashamed of, but why you gotta bring that up, yo?
Right, it can still out someone. But between friends that know each other's boundaries it's fine
An egg is a term in the LGBTQ community for someone who is exploring their gender or is in denial of it. When an egg cracks/hatches, a trans person has accepted who they really are. Calling someone an egg is telling them they’re trans, and is not something anyone should dictate about someone else.
Thank you for explaining that. That's horrible and I'm saddened by how creative we are when it comes to tearing each other down...
it’s not tearing people down, it’s usually someone unintentionally doing something hurtful when they mean to try to help someone.
read the first section of this, it explains the issue (the egg prime directive) well: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/am-i-trans
How can egg_irl memes then work? Seems like there's a fine line with them.
Eggs and hatched eggs post memes about being an egg or questioning their own gender. Other people seeing the memes may or may not relate.
The issue is in telling someone they are trans. Read this if you’re really interested, the first section is about the egg prime directive and explains this concept and why it’s important really well: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/am-i-trans
Self-proclaimed eggs realize they might be not-cis; but they haven't found themself yet. Or are in the denial phase. Or many other things.
Our shell show cracks, but we haven't hatched yet.
Memes about calling others eggs are often controversial. Most of the memes are either just general trans memes that aren't really egg-specific or people making fun of their own egginess.