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I think it's pretty straightforward why this happens - liberal politics as a hive mind talks to women, but it does not talk to men. Even this piece, look at the following quote.
The one case where it was at mutual abuse by both parties, they talk about Depp abusing Heard, but not Heard abusing Depp. That's why there is a divide. The problem is framed as "violence against women", instead of "domestic violence against people".
To be clear, modern society presents all people with new problems. But while generic problems like stagnating wages are being talked about as a generic issue, and women's issues get space as at least a successful special interest issue, issues disproportionately affecting men don't. This results in shitheads like Tate fleecing them and fucking up society at large as well.
I'm struggling to understand how you can take one section from examples they're giving of misogyny and extrapolate that it's a message emanating from "liberal politics as a hive mind." This is not an article describing Depp and Heard's relationship, this is an article describing the asymmetrical response of the public toward Depp vs toward Heard before any trial happened.
Oh that's easy. It's cuz they're a bad faith conservative.
I'm as left as they come, if you'd like, look at my comment history. I just don't like that there is this big culture war issue that repaints an abusers and rapists vs. decent, normal people issue into a men vs. women issue, thus dividing people and forcing a wide swathe of men who are simply being crushed by the system into the right where they will be fleeced and exploited.
But the trial has happened, and it turned out it was both of them that were shitty, and the article still doesn't bring that up. It brings a very contentious case up as a way to drive engagement into a stupid gender war issue, and takes the side of one of the abusers instead of denouncing all abuse as bad. That's my issue.
And absolutely no recognition of the problem with the statement that most college students are women.
There are parity issues on both sides of the gender divide. Both can be recognized. It's not a zero-sum game.
This isn't a problematic statement, it's a statement of fact. There's no value judgment or morality associated with this statement in this article
factual, yes - but I think the point being made here is that a larger percentage of males are not being exposed to the benefits of a more expansive early adult educational experience leading to a social and cultural disconnect.
Without explanation, it can be offensive. There is no value judgment in the sentence "black people make up the vast majority of the US prison population" either.
If you don't explain why, one conclusion someone might have is women are "just smarter", and black people are "just more criminally inclined".
This is the big point that is missed by common discourse. The problem is that men have gender-specific issues too, and those are not even being acknowledged as even being valid. Domestic abuse against men doesn't exist. The fact that homelessness or suicides affect men disproportionately, or that the alienation of people from each other affect men in different ways than women, is a taboo topic, because people feel it takes away from the focus on women's rights, or worse, that men "deserve" this as some kind of "reparations" in kind for suffering.
These are absolutely not taboo topics. I've read a ton of media about these things. From where do you derive that they're "taboo?"
Look at the article being shared. It addresses the topic of men and women drifting off to different sides of the political spectrum, and all it addresses is why women tend to the left. It conveniently leaves out why men tend to the right. It even insinuates that it's because men are actually alright with supporting abusers, rapists and paedophiles while women are not. Same thing it does to the Depp-Heard case, they were both abusers, but it only mentions Depp as being one.
I'm not saying that people in general never talk about men's issues. I'm saying that the "liberal left" does not have anything for men on its agenda, and is surprised that men are being left behind by its messaging.
This is an article about women becoming much more liberal, men staying ideologically the same and the implications of that. That you would think an article about women becoming more liberal needs to focus more on men's issues is itself a reflection of patriarchal thinking, whether or not that's your intention. There are plenty of articles covering men's issues, like tons of articles. Why do you think men are entitled to more coverage in this article?
So when you talk about the "liberal left," what issues do you think they need to talk about more?
But men are covered in this article! It outlines a ton of problems affecting men, it just either does not follow up on the causes and solutions - because who cares, right? - or outright paints it as a political opportunity for women that disaffected men are less likely voters, or even blames men as a whole for the issue.
Yeah, good job, the only way to fix this stupid gender war is "to press men to be better" and pick themselves up by their bootstraps or something.
How do women bridge the divide with men who follow misogynist influencers? How is that even possible? With men who are antifeminist and want to take away our rights?
It's not on "women". It's on all society. Stuff like this does not work like either one or the other. We are one society, men and women. We are the same in more things that matter when forming a society than we are different in.
One could start literally for free by creating successful, positive male role models in media and public discourse alongside women. I don't mean the two dimensional cutouts like Marvel heroes, but people with real problems tackling real issues. If it has to be Marvel, you can start at Deadpool. Dude was ugly as fuck and still loved.
Celebrate Men's Day and Father's Day as well as Women's Day and Mother's Day. Create acceptance and celebrate fatherhood and single fathers, fathers as homemakers as well as fathers as breadwinners. Celebrate successful (not wealthy, but societally positive) men as great examples of what a man should and can be.
There are other things that would be more expensive, like unfucking schooling. Other than reversing the underfundedness of it, make teachers be a prestigious profession again, and have more male teachers for male students to look up to. Get a bit more into why current school practices like homework, rote learning and "frontal", unidirectional lessons disadvantage boys in school. Address the conflict between the societal expectation for boys to be dominant as boys and submissive as students better. Unfuck sports as a subject, take the sole focus away from whatever flavour of profitable "sportsball" your country plays and offer more choice.
You can then go on to work. Tighten up labour safety and wellbeing practices, especially in hard physical labour disproportionately affecting men. Fight overtime as a concept in general, enforce breaks and frequent examinations of both workers' health and safety regulations. Fight back against "macho" culture not by "telling men not to rape", but by strengthening mental healthcare, and supporting hobby groups as third places where men can create friend groups to share feelings with. If broke communist countries could support hobby associations like glider airfields, shooting clubs, hiking clubs and so on, with substantial financial and material grants, why can't the most wealthy societies in history?
Make sure that every third man compared to the life expectancy of women does not die by reaching the age of 60 from the mental and physical hardship of work.
Then there are the hard parts. Like undoing the creation of barriers between people where you are not supposed to interact with other people next to you. Undoing loneliness and the "Tinderization" of relationships, and social media and all the fucked up stuff. Stop having society treat all men as potential predators.
This is just shit off the top of my head, and I'm not even an expert.
I disagree. The divide is not because we talk about "violence against women." Violence against women is a sadly vastly bigger problem rooted in eons of misogyny. That does NOT take a damn thing away from men and nbs who are abused.
Maybe the left can do more to capture the minds of young men, but how? Conservatism plays at people's base instincts, fear and ingrained culture. It's easier to avoid the cognitive dissonance of recognizing that hey, toxic masculinity does kinda suck. Or perhaps that the social construct of women in the home rearing kids is demeaning and repressive and has nothing to do with nature.
I think men have a lot of reflecting to do, and it's very hard to do that when it's uncomfortable and challenges you to think differently. Conservatism simply maintains the status quo which places men higher, and that's a lot more convenient than introspection.
All this isnt to say that men aren't being left behind when it comes to body positivity, mental health, etc. These are things that are vitally important for men too.
Also, I would avoid the Heard topic which is a beacon of misinformation and misogyny. I exclusively read negativity about Heard from news outlets and Reddit. It was like Depp was everyone's best friend as they suddenly rushed to his defense against "feminism". Blegh.
So the proportion isn't vastly bigger, only about 7%. Also men are much more likely to be the victims of violence generally.
And the proportion doesn't matter either. All victims of violence deserve help and empathy. Otherwise, the argument is that "minority victims don't matter". LGBTQ folks also deserve help and support tailored to their needs, despite being a relative minority.
I agree with you on this entirely
Good point, however there is more to this situation than the raw numbers. Women are a minority and simply face a different kind of oppression and violence. I mean think about women's health outcomes, anti-abortion legislation, etc. Plus, you can break those statistics down further. ~~By the time they're 17, 1/3 of women have experienced a rape or attempted rape, whereas the same is true for 1/4 of men.~~ 1/3rd of women rape victims experience it before age 17, whereas the same is true of 1/4 of male rape victims.
In reality, only 2.6% of men reported ever being raped, which even accounting for underreporting utterly pales in comparison to 18% of women.
Source: https://www.nsvrc.org/statistics
Regardless, just because one thing is maybe more prevalent than another doesn't mean the other isn't a problem. I do not mean to downplay violence in any form against anyone.
What I mean is focusing on violence against women isn't inherently an issue, and I don't think that's what is driving young men toward conservatism. We can focus on more than one thing at once. I think that conservatism empowers young men, elevates them. It is the path of least resistance for most because men-on-top is ingrained deeply in our society. I think that young men are gravitating to the most attractive worldview presented to them, no matter how selfish and regressive it is because it feels right.
EDIT: I got the stats wrong.
Are they? Last I checked, women were actually the majority across most of the world by a very slight edge, mostly because men die earlier since hard physical labour and wars disproportionately kill men.
Why bring it up then? What's the point?
If they face a different kind of violence, that would imply men face a different kind of violence, too, right? If they are different from each other, that means both sexes need special attention on issues disproportionately affecting them, don't they?
The problem is not "focusing on women's issues". The problem is "not focusing on men's issues".
Women are a social minority. Whites in South Africa who perpetuated the apartheid were the majority oppressing a minority, despite being vastly outnumbered. I am referring to sociological minorities, not statistical.
I edited my comment. The numbers are far more disparate than I initially misread. I only brought it up because we're getting into specifics and I had to do some research. Women are indeed more affected by sexual violence. What's more, over 90% of sexual violence is perpetrated by men.
Definitely.
This is fair, but it sounded to me like you were implying this was a zero sum game. We can do both.
My primary assertion is that conservatism (and figures like Tate) is attractive to young men because they reinforce what society has taught for their whole lives, and if not, then it's at least a power fantasy that places them in control, which is preferable to the alternative. Reality (which some refer to as "wokeism" or "leftism") is not as tantalizing. Realizing that you as a man have implicit biases, privilege, and toxicity embedded deep within you requires a level of introspection and empathy that most young people do not possess.
I struggle to see how "the left" can capture the minds of young men in the same way when taking an objective view of reality.
This is such a problematic statistic to bring up. It means nothing to the victims and their needs, or how should we help them. It also doesn't matter from a prevention point of view, since the vast majority of men are not rapists. It only serves to reframe the issue from "abusers against victims" to "men against women".
What is that alternative, then? That's the problem, I do not see anyone proposing an alternative role to men in society.
I dont think it is problematic in itself. I am merely pointing out that my previous statements about the disparities between men and women were correct.
The mentality is certainly "abusers vs victims," but we cannot bury our heads in the sand and ignore the context. I.e. we must recognize that most rapists are men. Most rape victims are women. Why this is the case is important to examine if we are to improve things.
Why do men need a "role" in society specifically? Is it the case that men simply feel aimless and this leads them to conservatism? To violence, even? I don't know. I don't think women go about feeling assured about their role in society which in turn makes them end up more liberal. Why would the inverse be true for men?
Again, this isn't to say we don't need support for young men or that they are never victimized. The only messages I can think of are: acknowledge and understand your privilege, act with empathy, emotions are important and should be discussed, etc. Way less sexy than shooting boar from a helicopter with a minigun or whatever it is men's role in society boils down to.
That's the point, it doesn't. But popular discourse pretends that it does in the inverse, that talking about abused men somehow weakens women's rights.
As the culture war goes, the right tells men they get to become either a head of a happy family with a loving wife and kids who give meaning to your blood sweat and tears in your hard work, or they tell you that you get to become a hedonistic macho guy using and abusing all that male privilege.
What does the left tell you? For women, they have the "successful single girlboss" trope to aspire to, or even the "hardworking single mom" thing. As a man who is supposed to catch on to the liberal side of the culture war, what is my role in society?
Even the term "toxic masculinity" sucks as a lot of people misunderstand it as "societal woes caused by men", using it as a cudgel telling men that they are the cause for whatever way society sucks.
Look, that's exactly the problem. It is only okay to help men as a byproduct of something that helps women. Just look at domestic violence again. Let's say that the rates at which men experience domestic violence as a victim is not underreported for various reasons. There are still men out there being victimized. Are there any shelters out there for men?
I didn't bring it up, the article did. What I came away with was that both sides sucked they both are abusers, but a lot of media either only covers one side or the other, depending on what they want to say. My point is that they brought up the case, and they took a side, and they took the side of an abuser. If they took the opposite side, that would still be taking the side of an abuser.
I was watching a video about the phenomenon of men getting more conservative - which is happening globally - and one of the men who is doing a lot of work on improving it said that men can take on roles of caretakers and househusbands because those are possible now.
To me, that rings a bit hollow because for decades women have been struggling to get out of those roles because they're not respected by society regardless of who does them. Saying that men now have the option to take them on doesn't feel like a solid argument.
They made a lot of interesting points and covered a lot of reasons why men and boys are falling behind, especially in education, but that part felt like he hadn't thought it the whole way through.
Which is why some men are becoming "anti-feminist". It's not that they're anti-women, it's that they are anti-"A movement that tells them they are the source of all problems and offers them no support". Why support a cause that openly tells you you're the bad guy just for what private parts you have while simultaneously shouting that private parts are irrelevant and shouldnt be part of the conversation.
But nah, guys are just hateful and terrible. Keep up the divide 👍
I think the problem is more inherent in how America interprets liberalism. We don't include things like class consciousness into liberal ideology, here it's all about addressing specific systemic inequalities between certain demographics.
When you define liberalism as only fixing these inequalities then of course a large population of men aren't going to involve themselves, they don't reap any benefit, they're not experiencing any systemic abuse.
However, if we accommodate socioeconomic realities of class into the equation, things start making a bit more sense. By protecting the most disadvantaged demographic in your class, you also strengthen your own interests.
I think it's important to keep in mind exactly who people are talking about when they make general criticism about men. If you aren't participating in misogyny, then they really aren't talking about you. They just aren't vocalizing the division in class that separates us all from the reigns of power.
I'm a leftist man and I hate that this phenomenon is considered acceptable. On one hand, a lot of women make criticisms of "men" without further qualification, and even make fun of anyone who says "not all men", but then they'll turn around and say "oh we didn't mean you, just misogynists". I'm on the fence about even identifying as a man (as opposed to non-binary), and my political views generally very well aligned with feminists', but nonetheless even I feel insulted, so I imagine a huge number of men feel much more insulted than I do.
How hard is it for critics of toxic masculinity to just say what they actually mean instead of saying a bunch of blatantly sexist things things and then claiming they meant something else when they're called on it? It has exactly the same energy as the "Schrodinger's douchebag" phenomenon, but in that case we see it as obviously disingenuous, but with criticisms of "men", we're supposed to accept that women really don't mean what they say.
Women who do this need to fucking stop, because they're draining enthusiasm from their male allies and driving recruitment for their enemies.
Edit: typo
You said so well what I have felt and expressed for so long. It's really heartbreaking to feel like you're a "lesser ally". Thank you for taking the time to write this.
Thanks to the internet, j came to understand that to successfully fight off a modern feminazi you have to out-crazy them. Say something like 'i identify as a cat, how dare you' then yowling and hissing like an angry cat until they leave you alone and in peace or something crazier.
Tbh, pretty difficult. At least for the vast majority of people. Putting together a comprehensive argument pertaining to socioeconomics or politics without it being full of internal contradictions is nearly impossible. Especially if your ideological framework isn't accounting for things like class consciousness.
For example, you are complaining about the reductive reasoning that leads to people make a bunch of sexist claims. However, you yourself utilized reductive thinking to come to that conclusion.
How prevalent is this attitude among feminist? Is this a majority or minority opinion, and if it is a minority opinion, how impactful is it? If it is just a few people making a lot of noise, is it fair to really judge half the global population for it? It is essentially the same "Schrodinger's douchebag" you were speaking about.
Is essentially the same as saying the men who are misogynist need to stop because they are draining enthusiasm from their female allies and driving recruitment for their enemies.
None of these are actual solutions to problems, they don't even really identify a problem, it's just rhetoric.
How so? I'm criticizing women who make blanket statements about men, and I was careful to make it clear that I'm taking about that subset of women, not women in general.
It's prevalent enough that I've encountered it numerous times in my IRL social groups. It's also prevalent enough that it's a common complaint from men.
They do need to stop. But I didn't think it's an apples to apples comparison because misogyny is an internalized trait that goes way beyond rhetoric, and what I'm criticizing is a certain brand of feminist rhetoric, not feminism per se.
Idk, you said" a lot of women" and "I imagine a huge number of men feel much more insulted turn I do", not exactly specific language.
Again, anecdotal evidence. I have not experienced this, but that doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Assuming that all societal discourse is reflection of your own experience is a product of reductive reasoning.
Right, but who are you making that request to? If a woman randomly yelled out to you that misogynist men needed to be cast out of society, what assumptions would you make? How different would it be if they just specified men, not misogynist men?
My point is that actual productive discourse requires context, nuance, and patience. That even if you are talking to a person who doesn't utilize as precise language as you would like, it doesn't automatically mean that their point is moot. Nor does it really mean they were unintentionally making a claim.
If someone is making a claim like "men evil" and there is surrounding context that should lead you to believe that this is not a literal statement, like them having a boyfriend or being married to a man....isn't saying "not all men" pedantic? Or even worse, could be interpreted as you purposely misinterpreting the intent of the statement?
Couldn't your need for specified absolution be an example of internalized misanthropy? One could assume that people who do not self associate with accusations intended for misogynists, have no real need for this type of pedantic relief.
Again, my whole point that political discourse is exceedingly hard. And it's made even more difficult by someone forcing a pedantic dispute any time someone isn't being specific enough for their taste.
All I'm really asking for is for people to say anything at all besides just "men" when making complaints about certain men. It doesn't need to be precise, just clear enough that it's obvious that all men aren't the target of criticism. I met the same standard I'm asking for, so I don't thing I'm being hypocritical or overly reductive. I don't think it's too much to ask for people to use a qualifier like "many" when complaining about a specific subset of men.
I'm not doing that. I'm making my point in a thread that's specifically about why feminism is often seen in a bad light. Where else could I possibly find a more appropriate venue for such a criticism?
I never said it did. I'm saying it causes an emotional reaction that is extremely unhelpful for productive dialog.
I know better than to say "not all men". You're missing something critical: while I used myself as an example, my comment was not about me. It's about all the men who see women talk that way and come away with the impression that feminism is hostile to them just because they're men. You don't need to convince me of anything, and even if you did, convincing me would not solve the problem.
Right, but isn't it a bit far fetched to be taken literally? That there are a significant amount of women who hate every man in their life?
If I said men love sports, would you demand me pretext that with "not all men"?
That was in reference to the "not all men" rhetoric.
Maybe that means you may be overreacting?
You're just validating their interpretation?
I think people whom think that way are just finding pedantic reasons to be upset at something they already have made opinions about.
Not trying to convince you of anything besides my original retort, communication about politics is hard. Just look at our conversation.
It might not be so hard if everything you said wasn't dripping with condescension.
Lol, are you this overdramatic every time someone disagrees with you? I think you may be a bit sensitive when encountering criticisms, which may explain the whole taking the generalization of men personally.
See, there you go again.
Ahh yes, I forgot. Anything that runs counter to your expert opinion is condescending.
Sounds like a perfectly legitimate rebuttal....
Let's see, you said I was reductive, I'm overdramatic, I'm a misanthrope, I'm seeking absolution, I'm intentionally misinterpreting things, I'm pedantic, I'm constantly detailing conversations with women, I'm pretending to be an expert...
I was trying to have a conversation about the state of feminist discourse, and you've tried to make it about me at every turn, to the point that you're constantly making shit up about me. So now that I think about it, you're worse than condescending. You're an asshole who responds to disagreement with insults and then you have the gall to accuse me of doing what you've been doing the whole time. Big narcissist energy, bud.
Feel free to keep wasting your time disparaging me, since you seem to be enjoying it so much, but I'm done with this sad excuse for a conversation.
No, I said that the women who claim it is all men's fault were using reductive reasoning. I then said your generalization about them was utilizing similar reductive reasoning.
You said misogyny was different because it was internalized. My rebuttal was that misanthropy is also internalized.
I said people who share that that particular belief often intentionally misinterpret things. But that's not exactly rare for people to believe in things that suit their interest.
Those I meant, but that was after you had your little fit.
You made it about you when you kept using anecdotal evidence...... I'm not making this about you, you just keep interpreting it that way. Even though you claim these aren't your beliefs, you keep saying I'm making things personal when I'm criticizing the belief.
Projection
You have a penchant for taking things wildly out of context and making the whole conversation about you.
It's enough for me to know that the one who brought that rhetoric into a portion of my friend group, an acquaintance of mine (I won't call her a friend) actually does mean it, or at least says she does.
The fact that she got one of the kindest people I ever met to parrot that same misandrist rhetoric hurts.
It shifted me away from self-indentifying as feminist. Nowadays, I say I'm pro-gender-equality, and embrace the values of classic feminism if someone asks.
Right, but isn't making a judgment call on feminism in general, based on a single anecdotal experience a bit dramatic?
I have tons of personal experience with racism, I don't automatically associate all white people with the actions of a few radicals.
I think that's really damaging to the social fabric of progressive politics. I don't think that anyone who actually studies feminism holds real ill will to all men, it's just not cohesive with the ideas of mutual support feminism was founded upon.
Corrupting the social understanding of feminism has been the long term goal of conservative politics for decades. I don't think there are many people who hold true to this ideology, I just think the ones who do are having their voices amplified by conservative media. And I think the point of this amplification is to interrupt class consciousness among young men, and to make them more sensitive to this messaging.
I'm not claiming everyone who has a reaction to the problematic generalization of political language is a woman hating conservative. I just think they're unwittingly amplifying a conservative campaign aimed against protecting women's rights.
The anecdotal experiences with her (it's not often I have the luxury of a candid discussion with the type of person who says these things) made me view all the other cases of feminists generalizing about men in another light, and all the cases where someone pointing this out would be told that "No, actually you are the problem because...".
Define "real ill will". Does it actually matter what they want if they are doing real harm? Misandry has become increasingly more common in the past decade, both online and irl, and in my experience, speaking up against it paints a huge target on your back.
This right here is part of the problem.
I'm trying to discuss a serious issue that is harming men, and after three paragraphs of downplaying it as not being a problem, you turn it around and write that the real problem is me bringing it up. That's fucked up.
Is that opinions not lacking a bit of nuance though? As I've said, I've experienced racial violence from white men, this doesn't mean that all white men are racist, and it doesn't mean that all racist people are violent.
I think that is dependent on your definition of "real harm", but as far as ill will I was originally thinking of people who actually blame every single man for all of life's difficulties.
How exactly do we define misandry, and how do we know it's increasingly more common? Could it just be more amplified because there is a political motivation for doing so? The people who tend to "speak up against it" are people like Jordan Peterson and Tate who profit from radicalizing young men.
Right, but we haven't established that it's actually happening with anything besides anecdotal evidence. So far my theory is just as valid as yours, except my theory has suspects with clear motive.
I'm not trying to be dismissive, but I just haven't been presented any evidence not supplied by personal experience, so my rebuttals are going to seem personal. I'd much rather you present evidence from a third party so we may avoid this situation.
[Apologies for the delay in answering, irl busy]
It's more akin to saying that there is a serious problem with racism & authoritarianism in republican ideology, and that I therefore cannot call myself a republican (for the record, I don't agree with US republican ideology in general, but as an example). Your example would be equivalent to "I have experienced misandry from women, therefore all women are misandrists."
It is for similar reasons that I don't relate with the MRA crowd - they bring up a lot of issues affecting men that need to be adressed (the ever-widening gender education gap being an obvious one), but there is also misogynist rhetoric mixed in.
Truthfully, I first encountered all this through /r/redpill back in the day, and as an inquisitive sort, I ended up reading a lot and deep-diving into statistics and studies. JBP in particular drew people in with pretty sharp grains of truth that (atleast at the time) were seldom discussed elsewhere in society, but nowadays twists the context to fit a more specific narrative (he was a lot more tolerable when he stuck to his own fields of expertise).
Anyway, I would note that your hypothesis doesn't detract from what I'm saying. In fact I suspect that the most malicious and enraging actors on both ends of the spectrum are amplified, whether that be to farm clicks, ad revenue, simple rage bait effects or otherwise. Either way, it means that the harm that those malicious actors do is amplified also. What effects does a continuous stream of misandrist messages to boys and young men have on their psyches? People who haven't lived with the misogynism that in the 1900s was widespread in the western world, who don't see the supposed irony behind "men bad" messages? Would it not be a travesty of the ages if a billion young men grew up to think that society thinks they are the scum of the earth, and an enemy to be destroyed?
My conclusion here is that sexism and gender inequality goes both ways - it's not a zero sum game, and attempting to be kinder, more considerate, as well as calling out harmful rhetoric wherever we see it can go a long way to making our world just a smidge more pleasant. These are times of great change, and perhaps now more than ever, kids need compassion, guidance and understanding.
Links to third party sources, examples of misandry etc. Most of these are picked up from searches, but there tends to be stuff just floating around on social media, even here on lemmy (usually milder and a bit less cartoonishly over the top. Some of these are clearly ironic, but that doesn't make it not misandry)
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7343362/
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pauline_Harmange
https://www.theatlantic.com/culture/archive/2014/03/a-twitter-hashtag-probably-doesnt-prove-feminists-want-to-kill-all-men/359493/
https://www.inc.com/suzanne-lucas/huffpost-editor-says-new-years-resolution-is-to-kill-all-men.html
https://www.salon.com/2013/10/27/fighting_sexism_with_cross_stitch_the_rise_of_misandry_crafts/
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4150880/Vlogger-Jenny-McDermott-tells-people-kill-men.html
https://www.jstor.org/stable/j.ctt80hj2
https://www.yourtango.com/2021340310/misandry-and-modern-woman-how-hatred-can-heal-lifetime-misogyny
https://www.washingtonpost.com/posteverything/wp/2016/06/30/feminists-treat-men-badly-its-bad-for-feminism/
https://www.2gb.com/kill-all-men-controversial-feminist-booted-from-charity-fundraiser/
But this comes back to the very heart of our discussion. When I give an example that reflects a similar generality as your claim, your rebuttals are to provide a more exacting and nuanced claim.
This is what I was requesting when you hear about "all men". That we be more specific with our criticism, and not lumping all feminist (all white men) with radical misandry (racist).
But is that actually a systemic problem? When there was an education gap in the opposing direction the cause was institutional, school simply did not accept women in certain programs. Are men not being allowed on colleges, or are they simply choosing not to attend?
JBP hasn't made an actual insightful statement in his public career. He just relies on misrepresenting data and rhetoric, and ignoring any rebuttal he can't dissuade. He has no field of expertise, he was a clinical psychologist whom specialized on addiction, and then got massively addicted to benzos. He then blamed his physicians for overprescrbing them, despite the fact that he fully understands the mechanism of addition. He's a fraud, and always has been. Personal responsibility my ass.
You still haven't given an example of actual systemic misandry though? My fear lies with statements like with your claim about the education gap. That's not systemic, it's still everyones personal choice to pursue higher education, men choosing not to is not an example of systemic abuse.
What happens when these groups who say it's a problem go to fix it? Are they going to try and motivate more men to go to school, or they going to take the easy and more traveled route and just limit the amount of women going to school?
Misogyny was not just "women bad", it was women have no rights. A woman could not have a bank account, an education, live by themselves, or really have an opinion not held by their husband.
When you compare the modern claims of misandry, they are nothing like the misogyny of the 20th century.
Lol, but no one really believes that except theennwho have been conned by people like JP or Tate. Young men are being told that their problems exist because women are woke, and are stealing their success from them. In reality the vast majority of everyone's problems are a byproduct of macro economics, and the other underlying symptoms of globalized late stage capitalism.
Yes, but to what degree? You obviously think this is a global epidemic, as you previously quoted "billions of young men". How do you square that hole? America and the rest of the western world may have recently just started to see equality among the sexes, but this is not a reality in most of the world. In the majority of the global population women are still systemically oppressed.
These same countries like India are huge participants in the men's rights movement, and are a large audience for people like Tate and JP. How exactly are these men labeling themselves victims of systemic misandry when women in their country are basically property?
My point is that the amount of people who think they're being victimized doesn't necessarily reflect the amount of actual victimization happening.
Again, this is not systemic abuse. This is a systemic health outcome failure, but this is more akin to not understanding now to treat aspects of a disease than it is a sign that government institution are preventing men from seeking mental healthcare, or only offering mental healthcare to women.
Again.... A single example of one woman hating men, and rightfully being criticized for it. If this is evidence of a greater problem, what do you suppose sub reddits like the black pill/red pill say about the growing problem of misogyny among young men?
I don't think this article really helps your argument?
Again, a person's opinion that's being criticized by a liberal news outlet. Not exactly a call to action, or indicative of a wider belief.
The same, a controversial blogger being highly criticized.
This is actually an article you should probably read. It does a decent job explaining why this minority of feminist choose to partake in their radical version feminism. I don't think I agree with it, but it is informative.
Lol, can't really believe this is on jstor. First of all, the book is written by a men's right activist. Secondly, did you actually read any of it? They were blaming things like Clarence Thomas sexually harassing Anita Ward on feminism.
Again, an anecdotal opinion of a blogger. For every one article like this, I can offer a couple dozen of post from reddit with a lot more hate.
Behind a paywall for me, but based on the summary it seems to be telling people to reject radical feminist who exclude men.
Again, an article criticizing it and detailing how they cancelled her event.
None of these were even close to examples of systemic abuse towards men. Most of them in fact were detailing how the vast majority of society has continued to reject the brand of feminism that you claim is so prevalent.
Again, I'm not claiming that misandry doesn't exist. I'm just claiming that it's not nearly as organized or as widely accepted as misogyny. And I have no real data to suggest that systemic misandry has ever existed at least in America.
There is a cause and effect happening in this equation, and it is not balanced in favour for women. We can both agree historically that misogyny was well established as a systemic problem. In response to this feminism happened, in response to feminism a certain reactionary class of men attempted demonize feminism.
This continues into the age of the Internet, as women continue to obtain a sense of equality, men online become more radical. Places like 4chan and reddit start communities that revolve around dehumanizing women. Feminist in response weaponize misandry, which in turn is utilized to recruit more young men into the men's right movement.
Our modern situation did not happen in a vacuum, nor was the increase in misandry unprovoked. Misogyny is so prevalent online that people like yourself tend to forget it even exist. You froth at the mouth when one woman at the Huffington post makes a tweet saying "kill all" men, but don't blink an eye over the thousands of men posting they should be able to rape any woman.