no no no, you see, if you ask a woman anything like that to their face, they'll lie to you because of the universal Woman Conspiracy that specifically exists to fuck with you. like, this isn't even some incel shit, theres a whole completely accepted genre of boomer joke about "ugh why won't your wife tell you her problems/how she feels (don't worry, its just Feeeemale Disease)" ((protip: she almost certainly has, you just didn't like what she said))

but yeah no you can't ask women anything because of the Women Illuminati we're all in, sorry ¯\_(ツ)_/¯