I have a larger than average and less sensitive than average penis, so as an insertive partner, condoms just aren't usable for me.

As a receptive partner condoms hurt. Like burning tearing sensation painful.

I found out in my late 30s that there is a common ingredient in cheap water-based lubes that many people are sensitive towards, which causes that unpleasant burning sensation. Most condoms are pre-lubed with the stuff.