Sometimes it’s just as simple as changing your perspective a little.

My uncle has pretty bad anger issues. Almost every workday he’d have to drive downtown, usually when the traffic was the worst (and he hated downtown driving to begin with), and he’d get super stressed and rage about it. He’d try to make it so he didn’t have to go downtown, but almost without fail something would come up and he’d be stuck doing it.

He told me he realized it wasn’t healthy, so he tried fixing it by changing it from thinking of it as ‘goddamnit I have to drive downtown again after I tried so hard not to!’ to ‘oh well, have to do my daily downtown trip’. And then when he occasionally didn’t have to go downtown, it became sort of an extra bonus treat.

He was amazed at how much anger he lost, just with a small change in thinking.

The best way I've found to deal with deep dark rage without collapsing into a broken ghost is to focus on gratitude. Thinking on your blessings can be the antidote to the poison of anger.

Knowing that is half the battle

I know fixing that is quite complex but my friend started kick boxing and it really helped her. Sometimes it helps to simply let the negative energy out so it doesn’t eat you alive and then you can see more solutions with a clear head