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How do I start same-sex dating and romance?
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this post was submitted on 17 Apr 2024
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What material support are you giving to LGBT+ people in the south? Because if you aren’t personally helping solve this then it just comes off as preachy. People don’t choose to uproot themselves from their family, friends, and community in the face of increasing violence and state oppression because it just sounds fun.
I definitely wasn't saying people change places just because it sounds fun. But I was calling into question where the line is drawn.
Why? Seriously, what is that contributing here? Do you think that’s changed anything about the factors that made OP consider leaving the south or helps him in any material way?
I’m not asking you to justify anything, I’m saying your comment was both unnecessary and unhelpful and instead of doing that again in the future you should reconsider.
I was giving my addition to the two cents everyone was giving here, nothing necessarily "necessary" about it; I relatedly did not come with any guarantee of helpfulness, and if by "unnecessary" you mean to imply it was somehow hurtful/destructive to suggest the semantics of how the Southern US ought to be rebuilt, I would've never predicted that in a hundred years. I was providing some of the thoughts I have when unwanted people like those homophobes and transphobes march on my world (and yes, I too am LGBT). It is theft. What do you do in response to said theft?
As a trans person who fled the south many years ago because I saw the writing on the wall, you do whatever you have to do to keep yourself safe. And you help the people that need it. You don’t finger wag at them for not doing enough to fix the shit driving them to flee.
Point to what part of what I said constitutes finger wagging or accusing someone of not doing everything they might.
If so much is at stake, there would then seem to be a deeper issue at hand, one relating to the peacekeepers.