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Lemmy is a worse platform for women than Reddit was
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this post was submitted on 13 May 2024
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What is this anyway ? :
Here is an excellent summary I came across: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/8694944
i blocked that "blahaj" long ago. it is a shit hole. if you continue to visit it you will get it.
Still, to be mindfull i read from your link :
x says - - tldr :
if woman alone in a forest : is she better to encounter a bear or a man ?
x says...
Okay very basically this whole thing started with a hypothetical posed to a bunch of women about which they would rather run into while alone in the woods; A random man, or a bear. A lot of women chose the bear. Reasons varied from “The worst the bear will do is kill me,” to “At least I know the bear wants to kill me,” with a general theme seeming to be that whatever tangible threat the bear posed was preferable to the uncertainty of wondering whether or not a random man would assault them.The poster’s stated goal with the hypothetical was to get men to think about why the women were choosing the bear. Instead a lot of guys took it as a personal attack, like they were being punished for the actions of other men. Many started attacking the question, insisting that bears are way more dangerous than virtually any man. This led to a lot of dismissive responses of the criticism like “This is why women choose the bear,” or talking about women’s safety being more important than men’s feelings.
I’m simplifying a lot but that’s the basic gist of it.
op answer to x
@spujb@lemmy.cafe ((OP)) Thank you for the detailed summary.To add the final unfortunate details, there was a recent discussion on Lemmy where women were sharing their reasons for choosing bear, which involved sharing personal stories of SA. Unfortunately, many men responded in a toxic manner, causing some women to delete their posts or accounts. Very disturbing and this is what inspired me to make this post, as it is quite reminiscent of the Catholic church sweeping SA under the rug.
my opinion :
ideally if a woman had a gun she could kill the bear without any bad consequences ... but she could not kill the man without legal risks. So ideally she would be better off encountering a bear ... though in some countries there is no problem with encountering a man (most of the time).
What's your beef with blahaj?
Not the person you responded to, but the blahaj admin has allowed tankies to set up shop because they're "trans inclusive."
Let me get yelled at and downvoted for being a trans women who explains it.
Women choose bear of men because of they encounter a bear, there substantially less likely to get harmed then a man.
That's it. Women choose bear over men because men harm women more.
This comment was reported. I have left it, and decided to explain.
Nobody is saying a person is more dangerous than a bear. They are saying that a woman feels safer in the woods knowing that a bear is there than a man.
This is because a bear, generally, won't attack unless provoked. Not all men (and I'm a man, before you try to guess) have that much restraint. This is not saying that ALL men are bad, or even MOST. Just statistically speaking, a woman is more likely to be hurt by a man in the woods than a bear.
Ignorance of the argument can be solved, and I hope this helped.