I'm just really direct, and get told I need to consider how I say things... The only example coming to mind is something I don't really want to talk about openly on Lemmy. I'll give a vague represantation though

(My statements are verbatim, the replies are paraphrased)

I'll say "You didn't do XYZ." - They say "But I have done X"

Next time I try "Have you done XYor Z?" - Then I hear "Why are you interrogating me?"

"What have you done?" - "Why are you being accusatory?"

Those are all plain and simple black and white questions. I have yet to figure out the code I was supposed to speak.

Those examples are from the same person, but I get this reaction from most people when I ask simple questions