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is ADHD harder to manage with time? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 5 months ago by AnotherFuture@sh.itjust.works to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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when i was a child, i had a tendency to extremely hyper fixate on various topics for months, so now that i'm older it just feels like i've experienced everything even though I technically haven't. the fixations are becoming much more quick in terms of cycles / how long they (don't) last and i spend most of my time feeling bored and empty, just rotting away and feeling entertained by nothing. lately this has caused me to get really stuck in the past, so i spend a lot of time just laying in bed crate digging my own memories and feeling kind of depressed because i have nothing new to be excited by or interested in. it does not help that i don't really have any long term goals or ambitions either, i just kind of exist.

does anyone else feel like this?

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[-] BearOfaTime@lemm.ee 5 points 5 months ago

If you're working at it, then it should become more automatic - it should take less conscious effort to keep from doing things that are problematic.

It's a practice thing, just like learning other stuff. ADHD responds very well to Cognitive Behavioural Therapy - where you essentially re-write the scripts we all operate by. But it takes time and practice - the repitition of substituting a new internal dialog for any given thought process/script.

To that end, 2 books may be helpful:

Adults and ADHD - this is good for seeing how it functions in adults VS kids.

Your Erroneous Zones by Wayne Dyer. Early "self help" book, but he's actually teaching Cognitive Behavioural Therapy without calling it that. Just showing how we use our internal dialog without thinking about it.

[-] AnotherFuture@sh.itjust.works 3 points 5 months ago

Thanks so much for recommending both books. I will be sure to give both a read soon.

[-] Szyler@lemmy.world 2 points 5 months ago

Just make sure "soon" isn't the Adhd procrastination of doing it "one day", as these books can help you

[-] BearOfaTime@lemm.ee 1 points 5 months ago

Great! Hope they help!

[-] Brickhead92@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

I'll have a look at these ones, and I'll add my own on top: How to ADHD by Jessica McCabe, I found that one to be something worthwhile.

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