What's best way of telling a dating app match, you're done texting for the day? (lemmy.world)

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When I get a match on a dating app, and it's going well, I often run into the problem of not knowing how to conclude texting for the day. My social battery runs out pretty quickly when texting. Especially when I just met the other person that day. I usually just tell a white lie.

So does anyone maybe have a good line on how to end things casually, for the day? Or is this something you should tell them beforehand? Or is telling a white lie the proper way to go in this scenario?

Please let me know your thoughts on the matter.

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[-] jet@hackertalks.com 35 points 4 months ago

In the first few messages try to establish a date, event, some meeting. Then you can just say, going to get my head down and focus on work, project, meeting, travel, looking forward to seeing you tomorrow!

If you don't have a established next step bur want to cool things off, respond to the last message. Oh, that's super creative, interesting, lots of think about. Brb I'm going to be away from my phone for a few hours

[-] notnotmike@programming.dev 20 points 4 months ago

In the first few messages try to establish a date, event, some meeting.

This has always been my biggest tip. There is zero point in making smalltalk on the app. You aren't getting accurate versions of each other, you are getting short, premeditated responses. And, if your match is a woman, she is getting dozens of additipnal matches and conversations, you don't want to become "boring" and forgotten. Just meet in person as soon as you can in 99% of cases.

[-] jet@hackertalks.com 12 points 4 months ago

1000% make the first meeting someplace that you want to be anyway, so if they flake you are not put out.

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