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I broke it off, and now I'm feeling sad (lemmy.ml)
submitted 3 months ago by valkyrie@lemmy.ml to c/relationship_advice@lemmy.world
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Following up on this post https://lemmy.ml/post/18558315 I made not too long ago.

I went on a few more dates with him and I just was feeling similarly unsure. And I’ve felt like I’ve wanted to possibly end things because I was scared about things escalating, like if he asked to be my boyfriend or if we became more intimate. And I did keep feeling like I need to end things.

So I broke it off with him today, and I just broke down crying for like 30 minutes. I’ve never cried over a guy before and I feel like maybe I made a mistake. I didn’t realize my feelings were strong enough to make me cry. But in the moment when I am with him it hasn’t felt like I was feeling much of anything.

I guess I’m just looking for advice on how can I better understand my own feelings in these situations and not be so uncertain. I really feel like I don’t understand my feelings and don’t know what to do based off of that so any advice on how to be more in-tune with my feelings would be appreciated.

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[-] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 3 months ago

Maybe talk to a professional.

[-] valkyrie@lemmy.ml 6 points 3 months ago

Maybe I should again. My last therapist who I just saw last month told me she thinks I am done with therapy and don’t need it anymore. That kind of surprised me but i accepted it, maybe I need to find a different one.

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