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I find no motivation in working for myself
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this post was submitted on 06 Aug 2024
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Short answer: Therapy!
Long answer:
You've identified a problem that you want to fix (willingness to do effort for yourself versus for others) but you haven't identified the root cause. This is basically one of the situations that therapy is best equipped to help with. It sounds like maybe a self-worth issue but I'm not a therapist so that's about as valuable as a lace umbrella.
Not sure - I don't feel like I undervalue myself (although I guess that's exactly what someone in my situation would say lmao). I just don't find motivation in doing something solely for myself, and am instead invested in things that I think the community could benefit from. An example would be wanting to run a Public Searx/Invidious instance
Yeah I hear you! But crucially its
You don't need to have deep trauma or self-harming tendencies for therapy to be of value to you! But it does indeed sound like I'm off the mark on the self-worth thing. (That's why I'm not a therapist).
Worst case scenario, you have a few sessions and don't find anything to sink your teeth into and you've wasted a few hours Better case scenario, you find a root cause or at least a path to a better way of doing things.
But hey, I tell just about everyone to get therapy :P
I think therapy is good path to follow.
If you don't want to spend money you could try DIY it but if someone will show you how to use tools for introspective like journaling and emotional averness it will be much easier to start.
You wrote in other comment that:
Maybe you should do the opposite. Be bored and see what your mind will do with boredom. Try to do it for a decent about of time like an hour. Maybe you will discover something surprising about yourself.