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this post was submitted on 10 Aug 2024
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Do you ever leave the house? Like to go to work or the library or to hang out with friends? Just leave as if you're doing one of those things, and then meet your date somewhere.
If you never leave the house, that is something you might consider addressing before you start dating. There can be lots of reasons to leave the house that don't involve an unwitting stranger getting pulled into your rather unique family situation.
Second. Even if you're an adult, you're in your mother's house. It sucks but it's her rules. If she doesn't want people coming to her house, then respect that. Get picked up somewhere else.
As stated in the above post, don't involve someone else by giving them permission that your mother would not give.
For sure, best case it's like this, just respect for homeowner's property.
Also questions of abuse and confinement possibly? Which if present, needs to be addressed. And relying on an Internet stranger for an escape is 1) super unfair to the internet stranger or 2) a great way to land in an even more abusive relationship.
This one is firmly above lemmy pay grade. OP might need local support resources that can help them within their specific legal and cultural situation.