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this post was submitted on 10 Aug 2024
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You seem to be very intentionally dodging the question everybody in this discussion has been asking: Why are you, an adult, being taken care of by a family member?
Aside from very literally answering the question by saying, "Well my sister is taking care of me because Mom is gone," you haven't addressed the subtext of that question: why do you need taking care of at all? Do you have some form of condition that requires you to have a caregiver as an adult?
Please make careful note of sentences I have written that end in question marks ("?")—those answers are important.
I don't get it either as I can be trusted home alone I feel.
I am sorry. You need help that we cannot give on a message board. You need to find a trusted person you can tell your story to. You should ask them for help.
Good luck.
Being trusted in a particular location does not depend on your feelings but on whether or not your behaviour demonstrates that you have earned that trust. Looking for boundaries - how much you can get away with - does not demonstrate you can be trusted, unless you frame it from the other person's perspective, for example you could ask your mom if she's comfortable for dates to pick you up from a few houses down the road, and if not how far out you should go. This lets her set the boundary she's comfortable with and you can gain trust by respecting that boundary and not attempting to push it - in fact go the other way and add 25 yards to it.
Without more information/context, there are not much strangers on the internet can help you. If you're going to go out for the date, make sure to leave some information for your sister or friend, just in case.