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I have a cousin who lived in and grew up in South-East Asia. I'm Canadian. A guy from my (small, rural) high school class was randomly at their wedding. Apparently they became roommates in college.
Did you marry your cousin, did she marry South-East Asia or was the guy from your high school randomly at his own wedding?
Huh, I looked hard and still don't get how this is unclear. The "their" isn't me because it's third person, and it can't be the region of South-East Asia or high school guy himself because that doesn't make sense. That should leave one possibility. Singular their is a thing, if you're unfamiliar.
I'll just clarify. My South-East Asian cousin married someone not in the story, and their college roommate, high school guy, was present as a guest, which was highly unexpected. Hilarity ensues.
Ah, singular their.
It's not that common.
It really is. You'll never hear "someone forgot their umbrella, I hope he/she comes back for it" in real, native speech. Singular "they" has been around in that context for centuries.
Using it for a specific, know person is new. In this case it's a specific unknown person, so it's optional, but I chose to, just because it minimises personal information shared. My cousin in not nonbinary, for what it's worth.