Im mad i missed the men bad struggle sesh (hexbear.net)

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I wouldve been the best miss andrist (painted nail emoji)

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[-] EmmaGoldman@hexbear.net 42 points 3 months ago

I swear to god, every time I'm exposed to heterosexual culture I walk away from it far more confused and concerned than I was expecting to. I keep preparing myself for greater and greater dissonance, but every time I still walk away from it having underprepared and feeling like a vulcan. Highly illogical.

[-] Belly_Beanis@hexbear.net 22 points 3 months ago

Me too. The problem is that I'm a cisshit. We seem incapable of forming healthy relationships. I'm especially baffled by heterosexual couples who get married and stay that way for decades while hating each other the entire time? Like what's with these grown-ass men not able to do basic chores? And why do women want to be their mothers? Is it a kink? An elaborate prank? I don't get it.

[-] Egon@hexbear.net 28 points 3 months ago

My mom and step-dad have been married for close to 15 years now and they're very happy together. I don't think it's at all impossible to have a healthy cis-het relationship, I really hope you're just being hyperbolic and that you don't think cis people are incapable of healthy relationships

[-] MaoTheLawn@hexbear.net 27 points 3 months ago

I think cishet people are prone to very gendered problems in relationships, and in general a lot of relationships from the outside do look terrible. But a lot of it is so normalised that it doesn't seem particularly shocking.

But then I talk to people in queer relationships and realise once you pull back the veil of normative gendered relationships there's a whole new layer of insanity and neuroticism in most people to deal with under that layer anyway.

[-] MarxMadness@lemmygrad.ml 17 points 3 months ago

"Healthy relationships" aren't free of problems, they're healthy because people put in work to maintain them, which includes staying on top of any long-term concerns and addressing new ones as they come up.