I actually go by a different name now that has a different reason to it, but that's the logic a lot of other friends stuck with, a username or game character they connect with. One of my best friends is named Ikora because of the Destiny character for instance.

Gonna do my best to avoid doxxing myself, but the name I go by now I chose for a few reasons:

• It's a traditional Irish name, I've learned in the last couple years that I'm almost completely ethnically Irish.
• It's fairly gender neutral at least by American standards, so it doesn't necessarily out me as trans while I'm still pretty early in transitioning.
• I took it from an old folk song I grew up with, so there's also personal history and ties to my family with it.

Ultimately everyone is gonna have their own reasons for the name they choose, but I've tried a couple names over the years to see which ones fit. Sometimes I've had ones that I felt a real connection to, but it felt all wrong to get called it. It's one of those things that can be a journey while you transition.

Also speaking from personal experience, the trans folks I know are delighted to explain why they chose the name the did. It's not impolite at all to ask, just so long as it's not the very first thing you ask lol.