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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by souperk@reddthat.com to c/adhd@lemmy.world

If you haven't heard this cliche while discussing your neurodivergency with someone, then I envy your luck. Yesterday I fucked up, I feel shitty, but also I am pissed.

Our brains are impulsive af and tend to forget the most important information. We mess up, our RSD (and empathy) kicks in, we feel terrible, we vow to be more careful, but guess what? Thats fucking exhausting.

As a result, we start overthinking our every waking moment, stressing over every little thing. Because, we are trying to be aware of the things we cannot perceive.

At some point, hopefully we realize that we cannot live like that, and we start to arbitrarily ignore our compulsion to overthink. Most often that works out great because most often the threat is not real, but sometimes we make the wrong call.

The times we overthink are still more than the times we do not, and we still mess up. Let us have our fucking peace.

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[-] aksdb@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

Yes and no; you left out part of my quote. Stuff that can be put in a reminder is up to me (especially if I tell them "I'll handle it"). But if for whatever reason that's not possible and I tell them "you might have to remind me again next week" and they are fine with that, then they shouldn't be pissed if I indeed needed a reminder. That's what I meant with "I warned them".

[-] die444die@lemmy.world 3 points 3 months ago

Exactly. No idea why people have downvoted you.

Our happiness relies on being able to accept the limitations we have. If others can’t accept them that’s on them. And honestly it’s not that big a deal. I am successful and have been in the same profession for over 20 years. Everyone I work with knows about it and works with me. I also work around their limitations. That’s just part of being on a team.

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