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You're totally right, that makes me feel so much better about having to wait idly for the next 19 minutes rather than get my shopping done. They're not in my way, they're connecting! I should try to connect with them, too!
Wow, they left. Why don't they want to connect anymore?
Such a weird take. Just say excuse me or I need to get through. Very easy. People aren't mind readers and they aren't purposely trying to make your life harder.
Oh, now I get it. They just don't even notice or acknowledge the existence of other people unless someone reminds them that such mythical beings exist.
Yeah, you're right, I'm much more sympathetic to them now. They're not mean, they're just amazingly self-centered and oblivious!
Hey man if you want to read every interaction in the worst possible light that's on you. I think most people aren't some narcissistic machine invented to inflict maximum social damage to poor little 6'5" guys.
Please suggest to me a better way to read an interaction in which someone in a very crowded public place just happens to forget that the possibility exists that another human might also need to get down that aisle. "Oopsie doodle! I forgot I was surrounded by a hundred people who would really rather get this chore done as fast as possible! Again! Silly me!"
Give me a charitable interpretation of that person who doesn't take even a split second to consider anyone else in their environment without having to be verbally admonished.
"Sometimes I get really excited when I see a friend and don't realize I'm blocking the way." That's how people think. No malice. I hope this helps you see another way to read a slight inconvenience instead of Ultra Gigachad Malice Narcissist Blocker 5000.
What mental disorder does this fall into?
This is totally bouncing off of me. How can a person, in a public space, surrounded at all times by other people, just forget they exist for any amount of time, for any reason? They're fucking everywhere. They're breathing, they're talking, their cart wheels are squeaking, the footsteps from their rubber-soled shoes are echoing off the hard tile floors, how do your senses just stop registering any of that?
I'm glad you are very considerate and have never made a mistake when excited about something before. Good for you friend.
I'm serious, though. How do you make that "mistake"? How do you get so excited that you completely tunnel-vision out the simultaneous existence of hundreds of people? That's absolutely in no way neurotypical.
For someone who expects constant awareness for other people you are incredibly un-aware and unfriendly about other people.
Yes, I am incredibly unfriendly when I'm trying to get my shit done. I want to be out of that place as fast as fucking possible. I don't want to linger, I don't want to chat, and I sure as fuck have never in my life been so distracted that a hundred other moving, talking people just vanished completely from my awareness. Is that some kind of ADHD thing? Some manifestation of executive dysfunction, like always being late and never letting anyone else talk in a conversation if they can't actively shout over you?
"Oh hey, my friend is in this aisle, and I don't see anybody else here, so no harm in talking."
Not their fault if after that they're too distracted talking to notice someone walk past the aisle, looking in to see that it's blocked, and choosing to go around instead of saying "excuse me."
It's interesting that you see someone having a talk and not being a 100 % aware of their surroundings at that moment as "self-centred". Believing that everyone all the time should be aware of you and move out of the way for you in a hurry so you aren't inconvenienced for even a second also comes off as quite self-centred.
It's not just me. If I was literally the only other person in the store, sure, I could understand that, they thought they were alone, they weren't expecting to encounter anyone else.
How the fuck do you just stop being aware of an entire seething mass of other humans flowing around you?
Seriously what the hell is going on in this thread. Think everyone should take a deep breath and realize that we all make mistakes and inconvenience each other sometimes, but most of us will also correct our mistake if it's brought to our attention
Most of us will literally never make that "mistake" because we're aware that other people exist, even when nobody's standing next to us screaming "HEY, I EXIST! CAN YOU TAKE THAT INTO ACCOUNT PLEASE?"