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How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?
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this post was submitted on 01 Sep 2024
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I do not deny it's shallow. I am absolutely not savoury when it comes to that (though I do need her to also have similar interests). Be that as it may, I just don't develop any romantic feelings for them otherwise.
Dude... from your interactions in here, i am beginning to not like you either. If i was a woman that you're talking to, using your outter looks to reject your personality is maybe more gentle than saying you treat people like npcs or that you are annoying.
Yeah, couldn't agree more. He doesn't sound like he even likes women, just feels he should own one and probably wants regular sex (on his terms only). I almost feel guilty writing a post trying to help him.
I never, ever said nor implied this. English is not my first language, so maybe I didn't phrase it all that well. I rarely ever even flirt with women because I'm afraid it will make them uncomfortable. I, as any other person, seek companionship. I know it sounds shallow to put emphasis on looks. But no matter which way I shake it it is an important factor to me. Otherwise it just feels like another friendship to me. I can't change myself in that regard. And the results speak for themselves. So here I am seeking help to at least not feel bitter about it.