imho this is an aggravating factor.

Being in a "trad wife" situation implies reinforced heteromormativity, mononormativity, and sexism which are the core issues here.

Being trad wasn't the linchpin but the background noise that helped everything unfold that way.

And it must have sucked ass to be in the position of the husband that felt so contrived by the societal norms around him that he had to lie and cheat his own self discovery journey.