Tbf I was not, and not knowing specifics of your situation I'm not sure how that translates to long term abusive partners and cults, actually, but on the surface that seems psychologically different. As it relates to the conversation at hand I'm bot sure how much decision making power kindergarteners have, though the abuser uses similar vectors in that kids are vulnerable by default and cult victims are vulnerable by circumstance. Sorry you went through that and all however, of course.