People have always cared about being insulted. Being a kind person is a fundamental survival instinct. Humans are social animals, and rely on trust. Sometimes people might say egregious things and there's some room to sternly tell them that they are wrong, or even that what they are saying is harmful.

But this desire to be derogatory to other people just because you disagree with them isn't healthy. I completely understand the appeal of telling someone to choke on a wet bag of turds when they say they're pro-life or anti-gay-marriage or something, but that doesn't get you anywhere. It's just you losing control of your emotions and saying something stupid and getting yourself into trouble.

If someone has said something that upsets you, and you want to say something to them about it, take the time to articulate what the problem is and why it matters to you. Take the high road, and let them be the one to cast the first stone. Then you can report them and get them banned instead of giving them the satisfaction of doing it to you because you broke first.

Whereas from this end, this insistence upon having the "right" to be a vicious boor disgusts me.

And it turns out I'm far more normal in this regard than the opposing stance is, given that social media sites, et al are bleeding users over it.

You are exactly the kind of person that causes me to avoid games I may play with randos, and keep all of my channels on a game muted.