Husband is a lucky guy. I guess your ex was hoping for mean reversion (there's a more appropriate mathematical term that I just can't think of as I write), with/for his children..

I had a best friend as a sixth former (17-18 yo) who was around your height; I lost my bf because the person I was engaged (then married) to didn't like her. Subconsciously, I've probably always compared everyone to her and the grace and poise with which she presented herself. I'm old now.

Scandinavian girls seem to be a reasonable height. I haven't spend enough time over there to know for certain that it's really a thing; and I wasn't that sad to want to look it up! Wonder if that would suit too? It's not the 80s anymore though, sadly, and dressing is very different and difficult now.

5'9" is tall. Hope you get to work/wear it well! I want to say 'congratulations' .. it doesn't make any sense but congratulations anyway! You/he won the lottery.