I wonder if movies is why people seem to scoff at my mom's allergies. She is "deathly" allergic to Cilantro and Coriander, so more than once people told her stuff like "Don't worry just eat around it" or "we'll put it on the side"

MAM. Her throat is closing, we are sticking an epi pen, and heading to the hospital if any gets in her mouth. If you can't accommodate her, let her know and we will leave. But it's severe enough that if a lot of fresh cilantro is being used, she has to leave or she'll start having symptoms. Basically if you can clearly smell cilantro, then enough is in the air that she's going to start coughing and wheezing and normally takes 2-3 days of her feeling garbage. Same exact case for my sister who is deathly allergic to red onions.

I never understood why some people think so little of "My throat will close if I eat this thing", but maybe it's TV where they treat it like lactose intolerance, where it's fine if you just take the meds with it?

IDK man, but it's tilting.