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I feel like past a certain age everyone doesn't like growing older. For me I have that same feeling plus the added pressure that every year I go from being an X year old virgin to an X+1 one year old virgin. I'm about to finish collage and go into the work field which given my internship I can already tell I won't have much of a chance at meeting new people even less girls.

Everytime I find someone and start getting along with them really well. I think to my self this will finally be the year which I stop being a virgin. But it just has not worked out. Of course I dont go into a relationship with the sole goal of losing my V-card but it is something that crosses my mind.

I am 24 year old and I am still a virgin.

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[-] DarkThoughts@fedia.io 11 points 7 months ago

Sex, from a physical standpoint, is very overrated, and being a virgin does not actually mean anything. Stop overthinking it.

[-] callouscomic@lemm.ee 5 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Good sex is not overrated. It can be immensely satisfying, fun, and romantic, depending on what one is into. It's not for everyone, but for some, once you find the right sexual match and develop some experience with it, it can be so great. It's also very healthy for people to have a good sex life.

"A good sex life" will vary and be different for all.

[-] chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago

Sure, but that has little to do with virginity. Tons of people lose their virginity in one night stands or bad relationships with forgettable to awful sex. If your only goal is to lose your virginity you’re not on the right path to having a great relationship.

[-] DarkThoughts@fedia.io 1 points 7 months ago

Fun and romance aren't physical attributes. Sex is great when you're doing it with someone you have a deep connection with, when you're feeling close and connected with that person when you do it. It's intimate not because of the sex itself but the feelings you share for each other. That's what makes it great sex. From a pure physical standpoint I'd say masturbation is much better.

[-] Streammy@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 7 months ago

Is not only about the sex but also having a meaningful enough relationship to want to do it with that person

[-] DarkThoughts@fedia.io 2 points 7 months ago

That's also not something you can enforce. Don't meet people with the outlook of them becoming your partner. The best relationships are those where you know that person for a long time and have a bond with already. So find ways to make friends instead and just let things happen when they happen.

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