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Make it about me
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This is a legitimate complaint in the situations where the topic is uniquely a women's issue, and people are trying to redirect the conversation to something that really isn't the same thing and is a separate issue so talking about that means you aren't talking about the first thing anymore. But the meta issue of someone trying to talk about one group's problems and getting hit by whataboutism, seems arguably more universal and might not be specifically a women's issue, so saying something along the lines of "yeah this happens to us too it sucks", could be supportive and not about shutting up discussion of the original topic.
This isn't a universal complaint about the frustration of whataboutism.
This is a specific complaint about how any time women try to talk about women's issues in a forum that may contain men, those men engage in disingenuous whataboutism.
The men replying are almost never showing support, they're minimizing the issue, or they're trying to co-opt the thread.
It doesn't need to be a uniquely woman's issue for it to be a predominantly women's issue.
And it doesn't need to be a predominantly woman's issue for women to want to talk about it from a woman's perspective without men making it about them.
To me, the comment in question didn't seem to be doing that. The point I'm trying to make is to object to the idea that it is categorically doing that, given the context. It seems like a divisive way of deciding what is bad behavior, to condemn any statement made in response to discussion about problems faced by one group that is not specifically about the struggles of that group, regardless of anything else about the statement.
If you would rather expand on how that goes or the ways in which this is predominantly a women's issue, feel free to take this opportunity instead of responding to what else I'm saying.