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[-] Monstrosity@lemm.ee 105 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

This isn't going to be popular, but part of the problem is not acknowledging that 42%. It's fucking insulting, frankly. Plenty of women voted for the bear.

EDIT: In light of reports of tons of guys saying "your body my choice" and shit, I actually regret writing this & everything below.

Like, what the fuck, boys?

[-] Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de 81 points 1 week ago

52% of white women voted for trump.

Chances are that many of the people crying about men voting trump, are part of a demographic that mostly voted trump.

Trump apparently won the popular vote anyway. Most of everyone who voted, voted trump. But let's focus on men and then be surprised that young men who are very insecure about themselves anyway, feel attacked by the left and choose the right.

[-] Monstrosity@lemm.ee 26 points 1 week ago

Please don't get me confused, I don't think it's good this many men voted for The Stain. Also, 52% of WHITE women, but I bet if you combined ALL women, that number would drop dramatically.

My broader point is, IMO, that 42% never gets talked about so why would it grow, yeah?

Or, put another way, when I talk about women, who are my allies against the Patriarchy, I speak of why I like them (because I do, I LOVE women). They are resilient, strong, resourceful, grounded, etc, all the good stuff, and I try to include all women in that, they are my allies. I try NOT to focus on trad wives, manipulators, "gold diggers", abusers, weirdos like MTG or Caitlyn Jenner , you know, bad people (and there are plenty).

But when I hear about men in the ally space, it feels like I hear all about how awful and dangerous we are and that's it. And there's ALWAYS this group of guys willing to go along with it and point and go "yeah, we totally suck! You guys saying we don't are the real problem!" But, how is that motivating to anyone? It makes me upset, anyways. Maybe I'm just a big emotional baby, who knows?

Anyways, I'm blabbing. Bad habit of mine.

[-] Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de 26 points 1 week ago

I would rather kill myself than vote for trump, who is a sexist, racist and fascist.

And I am with you. The boarder left is in denial that they are alienating especially young men with that behavior.

[-] dwemthy@lemdro.id 14 points 1 week ago

Meanwhile the right is actively recruiting young men. The name "Manosphere" for their recruitment cedes that ground to them with no resistance. "That's just how men are, they hate women and vote for Trump because celebrities tell them to." The right is actively selling their ideology to young men, the left isn't.

[-] InverseParallax@lemmy.world -4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

The left has nothing for them, the American left used to be racist and sexist too, but then they expelled the dixiecrats.

Where do you think all that sexist racist scum came from? You think they wave confederate flags for no reason?

[-] Hacksaw@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 week ago

The left has TONS for men. You think men thrive under the patriarchy? Not being able to express emotions, not being able to express fraternal love, not being able to pursue "womanly" or"gay" passions. Men have rarely been more alone and less happy than they are now and left wing ideology can free them.

The left just doesn't reach out like the right does. We could do a much better job.

The online left also doesn't do a great job calling out sexism and other behaviours that uphold the patriarchy when it victimizes men. That's pretty shameful and it's hard for men to feel safe online in leftist spaces. In person I've never had a problem and people have been wonderful. But it's a barrier to overcome that isn't there on the right. The right says "you're amazing because you're a man, join us and regain your rightful amazing place that your deserve". That's a hard message when one side says you're amazing as you are and the other, the side that prides itself of being open and accepting, is proud to tell you you're worse than a bear and you shouldn't feel hurt by that because it's what you deserve.

[-] InverseParallax@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

America enforced an ideal for men that they have to be impossibly strong, stupid, brutish, and horny.

It's only over the past 20 years that that started to break down, but large parts of the country are still infused with those values.

Everybody is acting so shocked because they lived in the nice parts of the country till now.

[-] Hacksaw@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 week ago

That's exactly it. The right is telling them they STILL have to be impossibly during stupid brutish and horny. That's basically what an "Alpha Male ™" is. Only the left has an escape for that toxic definition of masculinity, I'm frankly baffled at how we're losing the fight for boys and men. I've never seen the left fumble so badly. But there are a lot of great men on the left working HARD to fix that, so I have hope for the future

[-] damnedfurry@lemmy.world -2 points 1 week ago

The left has TONS for men. You think men thrive under the patriarchy?

The fact that you're using the word "patriarchy" already contradicts the first sentence, lol. Your whole paradigm rests on a foundation of "all the bad stuff is ultimately male-caused". It's your version of original sin, except that ironically there's actually a path to redemption for religion's original sin. Your version can't be redeemed--you'll always see males as the enemy. Your worldview literally requires it.

The left has TONS of one specific thing for men and boys: contempt.

[-] Fedizen@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago

while were demographic blaming you might as well start talking about latinos

[-] Monstrosity@lemm.ee 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

An I demographic blaming?

Honest question, why so defensive? This post is demographic blaming, but am I supposed to go, "oh yeah I suck even though I am an ally." Is that it? Is that what you want? Subservience? Or an honest conversation so we can move forward?

[-] Fedizen@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I just don't know if its all that valuable. The real change is not that Trump got a bunch of extra votes, its that nobody came out to vote for Harris, the percentages largely are distorted on that basis. Latinos opted to not vote so trump got a higher percentage of latinos, possibly because of Harris' right wing immigration arguments.

The vice presidential debate where walz sat there and agreed with vance was the truth of this election.

Women largely didnt come out to vote for Harris for some reason despite abortion ballot initiatives being largely successful. I've heard enough stories that its possible GOP largely just challenged every woman's signature/voter status on every ballot they could across america.

[-] Monstrosity@lemm.ee 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I see what you're saying, and I actually completely agree with a lot of the sentiment. I think the real issue is broader than simple demographics.

That said, if you feel like the obvious alienation men are feeling from allied spaces isn't a big deal, well, I guess that's something you can choose to ignore at your own peril. I don't think it's a good idea, but I'm just some stupid dude.

[-] InverseParallax@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

That problem seems like it could solve itself...

Face eating leopard party hungers...

[-] AngryRobot@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Nobody hates women like other women.

[-] Monstrosity@lemm.ee 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I could not disagree more. There's a lot of dudes who really, REALLY hate women. I mean, that should be self evident.

Also, to be clear, there's very good, reasons for folks to be skeptical about inviting men into allied spaces. It's complex. People are complex.

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