I don't think there is any valid excuse to force somebody to "come out of the closet" against their will, even hypocrisy. It's their choice to come out, not anybody else's.

I would expect that gay men, given the massive prosecution that they've been subject to in the past (and still are in many countries nowadays), would share that feeling, but maybe it's because I'm from a generation that grew up at a time when homophobia was absolutely normal and later lived in places which weren't like that at all were I've met gay men who had left their own countries in order to be able to be with the people they loved, and were I figured out just how unfair and casually nasty I had been in the years before.

Doing this kind of thing thinking you're holding a high moral ground because the other person is in some way immoral is exactly the kind of thinking extreme religious types have when they go after, amongst others, homosexuals.

As much as I dislike conservatives, I dislike even more doing this shit to somebody and the kind of person who would do so.