Was banned from !egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone for calling out a Mod's misuse of the Egg prime directive to criticize trans people for helping out trans women in denial of their trans-ness. They're denying the validity of signs of being transgender, what the actual fuck, this shit is not okay. Then after banning me that dipshit locks the post so no one else can reply on it. How is this not power-tripping?
Modlog history for my account: https://discuss.online/modlog?userId=11993717
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Why are you suggesting what is cis or trans or anything else for someone else's brain? It comes off like bullies I might have seen in the 90s. "Oh you like art and fantasy? F**!" "Oh you like cooking, like a woman???" It's best not to make rules of identity for how people express themselves.
Liking art didn't make me gay, and liking cooking didn't make me a woman, despite what someone said about me then.
Sometimes people need tough love and tough love can feel like bullying but it's still good for them and helps them out of denial. Liking those things doesn't make you trans, it's a sign that you likely are trans, don't twist my words that's a bad faith argument used by cis people who invalidate the egg movement, which is evil because breaking people's eggs saves lives. Getting people out of denial and able to accept themselves and transition literally saves people's lives, because trans people who don't get the care they need literally feel so bad they want to kill themselves.
What
The
Fuck
There's a big difference between dictating what others behavior says about them, and creating a welcome and safe environment for people to learn about themselves, and feel comfortable to explore their identity.
Girl, the whole point of eggs is that the only way to hatch them is to provide a warm environment and let the chick break out the egg on their own
"breaking people's eggs" is harmful thinking and while I understand where you're coming from (wanting to help people transition earlier so they can accept themselves, pass better avoid suicide, etc) - this is not the way - you can't force others to make decisions about themselves - they have to come to their conclusions on their own terms - otherwise you're recreating the same issues you're trying to solve
imagine breaking somebody's egg and then it turns out they were just into cross-dressing but you kept insisting "nah you're in denial you're actually trans - start transitioning now you'll regret it later if you don't" - and then they transition and find out that's not what they wanted and take their own life because of irreversible changes they can't afford to change that make them incredibly dysphoric - are you ready to accept that responsibility? and even if you are - do you see how it's not your choice to make?
If you're wrong about someone and they turn out to be a femboy, no harm no foul, if you are right about a trans woman being in denial and you don't help her, it's life or death. I'd day it's worth the awkwardness and few hurt feelings along the way, it's LIFE OR DEATH!