Being loved or at least desired by someone must be nice (lemmings.world)

submitted 1 week ago by Platypus@lemmings.world to c/casualconversation@lemm.ee

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If you read my previous post on other place I asked about dating and most responses sounded like it was nice. Yes, I'm aware that relationships are not only good times (I've seen my mother being tired of her partner and scared of my father) but when you have literally NOTHING in your life you can't help to idolising the things you never had...

I don't think that's weird, but it's definitely sad

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[-] Sundial@lemm.ee 12 points 1 week ago

You won't magically be happy if you're in a relationship. Remove that expectation from yourself. Go do something you personally enjoy. Hiking, reading, games, cooking, baking, etc. Whatever it is, just enjoy it. That's what life is. Whatever you choose to make it to be.

[-] Platypus@lemmings.world 1 points 1 week ago

I don't like any of what you mentioned. And I already game

[-] Sundial@lemm.ee 6 points 1 week ago

Just do whatever makes you happy. And if you have anyone on your life (family, friends, etc), then reach out. You don't have to pour your heart if you don't want. Just talk to them. Ask them how their day was. What did they have to eat today. Socialize. You can always start conversations here or in other communities if you feel like you want to do that instead.

You're not unhappy because you're single. Plenty of people are in relationships and are unhappy. You saw that yourself with your parents. You need to stop making a relationship seem unachievable and having it tied to your happiness and sense of self worth.