despite never commenting in the community

I suspect you got instance banned and that got you banned from the community, but you're going to have to check the modlog yourself.

I am going to ask here because I couldn't do it in the other one before it was locked.

Hypothetical scenario

• An unmoderated instance allows people to make hate speech comments
• That instance also has interesting communities, so defederation is not possible
• An admin sees this and pre-emptively bans the people making hate speech comments

Would you be okay with way of moderating? I'm asking because it seems like the "despite never commenting in the community" argument gets brought up a lot, but is that really that good of an argument?

YDI, go apologize if you actually care, otherwise clearly that space wasn’t for you anyway. The admin there has been very clear that such dialogue is not permitted in the space she owns and that she maintains the right to do preemptive bans. You can disagree with the rules but you can’t be butthurt that you broke them and got whacked for it.

banned for gatekeeping

YDI, this that you are/were doing. It doesn't matter if you are a trans woman. Gatekeeping people's identities is still gatekeeping. Blahaj bans transmedicalists so you should know better than to try and say it's okay because you're a trans woman. In addition the whole "Just asking questions rhetoric isn't accepted either because it's what those "polite transphobes" you see on BBC use and honestly they should be banned. Not banning them is to fall for their bullshit and allow them to continue their invalidating and abusive arguments.

@db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com This seems like a rehash of the other locked topics. Lots of bellyaching, very little merit in them.

If this isn't gatekeeping, then what is it? Sparkling "just asking questions"? This is what gatekeeping is, sweetheart. It's a form of bigotry in which you tell someone, either directly or through implied statements, that their identity isn't valid. No wonder you got banned from a queer safe space. It doesn't matter how trans or gay you are, perpetuating the cycle of abuse will get you banned from queer safe spaces.

If you're unable to fathom the possibility that someone could have an identity that doesn't make sense to you, grow up. There are a lot of things that people do which seem silly in life but are an integral part of who they are. Grow the fuck up.

Edit as a warning to cis allies for this comment chain: I was a bit sloppy with my aim, sorry if you caught a stray bullet.

Tbh, this one is difficult to make a good PTB response about.

The closest I can get is it might be YDI, because your user history does show a proclivity to the kind of arguments that blahaj regularly uses as the criteria.

But, it could be PTB instead, since your user history is also free of actual gatekeeping comments, on this account.

But you do mention that this account is one of at least two, with the intent of keeping another account specifically for blahaj that you want to protect. If that's the case, we have no way of knowing what you've said where that could be a legit violation.

Now, the screen shots provided don't show you actually violating the rules, so, it's a qualified PTB where there's a possibility that you did and I just can't see it. If that's the case, I'd reserve the ability to change my mind.

I will say though, so far everyone that's posted about this has ended up having violated that rule and it just wasn't visible immediately. It's a controversial rule for sure, and preemptive bans even moreso.

Now with that out of the way, you did ask some questions about neopronouns that I never saw get answered. I will not dive into that on this thread because that's not what this community is for.

However, having had some recent exploration about neopronouns, xenopronouns and related issues, if you shoot me a DM or make a post in a community that is for asking questions about difficult subjects, I'll gladly share what I've found regarding what those things actually mean, and would likely be willing to briefly and civilly discuss my opinion on the matter. But I don't let internet arguments go very far, so remember that I won't be debating the issue, just explaining what I've learned and my opinion, so if it gets past the point where it's two folks having a chill conversation, I'm out. And, to repeat, I won't do that here, this isn't the community for that

WTF?! YDI. You should know better than to act like that in a trans space. I myself am Nonbinary and a therian and have had to deal with people exactly like you telling me I'm crazy for it. The thing is I have species dysphoria and it's not something I can control, so calling me crazy for it is as bad as someone saying you're crazy for you having gender dysphoria. Go fuck yourself!